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writes:I used to be very skinny. When I was a teenager and went on holiday I would eat and drink loads and not gain weight. Sometimes I would lose weight.Over the past couple of years this has stopped. A couple of years ago I took a year off from work and took a gap year. I went away for about 8 months. I was so busy planning where I would go next, which museum to see and which restaurant to go to that I didn't realise that I was putting on weight. When I got back home I knew I had put on a lot of weight. I guessed it may have been as much as 15lbs. I got on the scales and it turned out I had gained over 40lbs. Its been so embarrassing seeing friends and family again. They've made a lot of comments which vary from 'so I see you ate well on your trip' to 'you've been packing on the pounds'. One friend who has always been very skinny said to me 'I've been trying to put on weight but cant seem to do it, how did you get so fat so quickly?' I went on a diet and joined a gym but after 6 months I only lost 7lbs. Since I wasn't seeing results I gave up. In the following 2 months I gained 15lbs. My friends have continued to make light hearted jokes about my weight gain. At first it got to me a little. Over time though I grew to not mind it. In fact, I think I prefer it now that I'm plumper.My question is whether it is weird that I like being fat? Should I ask my friends to stop making fun of my belly etc. even though I secretly like it? They call me nicknames like chubby, fatty and so on.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (28 June 2010):
I wish I was like you! God, it must be liberating to be at ease in the skin you´re in. I´m constantly fighting a battle with myself, always finding something to put me down. I bet you probably radiate confidence and that baffled your friends and family.
As for the jokes. Either way goes. A few year ago I was sickly skinny. People called me skeleton, or the grim reaper and would send me e-mails with fake job offers to play a zombie in an upcoming movie. Anything that is stamped 'out of the ordinary' is usually ridiculed. That's people's way of handling stuff they don't understand.
As for your clothes, hey if you feel confident showing off your belly, by all means go for it. However, you have to take your bf into consideration. He might feel you dress too provocatively.
But honestly, if you know how to work it and dress in a way that optimizes your curves, I think big women can be really really sexy. I guess it's up to you to make the distinction between trashy and classy.
Good luck and I hope you keep this attitude!
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reader, Philosophyzer +, writes (27 June 2010):
 It's not strange at all! Embracing your figure is great and, frankly, if your friends were any sort of true friends, those comments should never had come out their mouths! Enjoy yourself and you body! Best of luck to you!
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reader, Ccallister  +, writes (26 June 2010):
no. i love being fat, maybe a little too much. I had the same experience as you did to start it off. I was going to America for 2 months and came back 125pounds heavier. I love the new me and find it very sexy. I kind of went overboard and i can't stop. before i went to America I weighed 165 pounds and 10 years on i weigh 886 pounds, I love every fat, squishy part of me and I never want my gain to end
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): no its not strange. My husband fattened me up and now I like it. I like it a bit too much.. lol cus now I am huge.. but he seems to like it more and more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): if you're happy with a bit of weight then be happy.I've always been a bit heavy and I've only now got to a point of being happy with it.As soon as you ar anyone loves themselves and knows they are gorgeous.
Power in the love and acceptance you have for youself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): some bits of useless info;
i am glad you like the new plumpier you but something that we must not loose sight of. sometimes being fatter brings on more health issues. so just becareful that with the added weight gain your health has not deteriorated.
also please be aware that some insurance companies load your policy for being overweight.
there are many many things we do not consider when faced with health and weight issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): HI
Hey, I see that right now you are in love with your belly and are in the mood to show it off!! WEll, best of luck!
But promise me that once the honeymoon is over, you will cover it up!!! (not that it looks gross, but it causes skin rashes, when suspended over denims for too long). OF course, yo udon;t have to take me too seriously!!
Rock you curves love!!!
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reader, Pleasantly Plump +, writes (8 October 2009):
Pleasantly Plump is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the lovely comments guys. With all this pressure in the media about being thin Im gald to hear real people like you saying its ok to be fat (I mean voluptuous).
By the way, yes, my belly is always kept moisturised. On my way back from Thailand I thought my bf would dump me for getting so fat. He was really shocked when he saw me just like everyone else. For about a week he was really quiet. Eventually he came round to it. Now he really likes my fattened body. He saw me moisturising my belly once and asked if he could do it. I let him and he seems to love it. I like it too, although it tickles me so much I go into fits of giggles.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): Hi
Yeah, you are spot on with the jealous bit!!! I am fairly full busted myself and I can tell how jealous they get!! But, honey, now that you are round, you've got to take care that your clothes make you look abso-yummy and not a tart with a tummy!!
So, I hear that you like clothes that bare your belly? Well, unless you have a flat tummy, that has to go!!! Seriously,right now you have to focus on your silhouette and not on baring of the skin!! (Tummy, no way)
So, here are a few pointers.
First, get some A-line skirts, that simply flute around your body, and reach your knees, and pair them with t-shirts that show off your cleavage. Also, go for materials that skim your body rather than clinging to it.
We curvy women are lucky that we live in a age where feminine clothes are in. So, if you are wearing a deep cut t-shirt, make sure that the material is cotton or silk, or chiffon and the length is slightly longish (on denims at least) and make sure that you decorate your waist with funky belts... but cover your belly.
Also, if you are tall, then long flared skirts with delicate sandal, and spaghetti tops pr even corsets will look wonderful.
Just celebrate your body and treat it with respect!!! And yeah, remember to always keep the skin well moisturized and yummy. (did you know that butter contains vitamin A which is vital for soft, glorious skin???)
S0, best of luck darling... Celebrate yourself!!!!
Love :)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 October 2009):
 It's refreshing to have a female post that she actually likes her body. It sure doesn't happen very often.
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (6 October 2009):
 I'm going to be honest with you.. there's a difference in being sexy and trashy. Shirts that reveal your cleavage and your belly fall more on the trashy side. And if you're overweight, you're probably not attracting good attention. I recommend being a lady and covering up. At least a little bit.
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reader, Pleasantly Plump +, writes (6 October 2009):
Pleasantly Plump is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the help people.
Just to answer a couple of questions - no, I do not have a hormonal balance.
Clariss, I have bought clothes which reveal my cleavage. A lot of my friends who make fun of my weight are probably quite jealous of my bust, especially since I am finally bigger than them.
I prefer t-shirts cut off at the bottom exposing my belly. My friends always make fun of me when I sit down and have my belly hanging over my jeans.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): Hi
Hey, nothing wrong with being curvy and loving it too! I know that many guys prefer a soft body compared to a skeletal one! And, yeah nothing wrong with you loving it either. AS long as it is healthy. You know, if you are within the range of the normal body weight ratio and do not suffer from any hormonal imbalances (like thyroid etc) then you have nothing to worry about! Love your body and yeah, why all the pressure about the weight? I wish someone would go up there and tease the neurotic women that don't even look at a pastry lest they become fat? What's with the paranoia surrounding figures?
Anyway, my outburst aside, as long as you are healthy, love your body. In fact, buy low cut clothes to show off the new bust line and the cleavage!!!
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (6 October 2009):
 No, I don't think it would be weird to like being fat, if by "fat" you mean heavier than before but still a normal weight. If you were a stick before, and have gained a lot of weight it is very possible that now you are curvy and attractive. Here's an interesting site I found about weight, recently... Some of the slides are surprising... The lesson is to not go by the scale, go by how you feel when you look in the mirror. I hope the link links ok. Last time I posted a link on here it didn't link the whole address. If it doesn't just copy and paste it into your browser's address window.http://www.flickr.com/photos/77367764@N00/sets/72157602199008819/show/
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): It's great that you have such confidence in your body and your looks. And no there is nothing wrong with not being bothered by the fact you are heavier now than you used to be. My only concern with gaining that much weight is just to make sure you stay active and stay healthy. That's about 55lbs right. That is a significant amount of weight, but since i don't know what you weighed before I can't say whether it's an unhealthy weight for you. As long as your health is good there is nothing wrong with having a little extra meat on your bones. I also am built that way and I agree with the previous poster I like having a womanly body and having curves vs being stick thin and showing every bone in my body. Enjoy what you got.
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (6 October 2009):
If it's not hurting you then I don't see why you should ask them to stop. But it is rude of them. Maybe they should be aware of that.
It's not weird to like being fat. I've known girls like that. They like the curves and the way they can move when they dance, et cetera.
Just remember that you should be healthy. There's nothing wrong with being slightly overweight but there's a point at which it's just not good for you.
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