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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello,Thank you for taking the time to read my question. My question is about if people can really change. I knew this girl who I had feelings for. We went with each other a little while, but she began canceling our appointments with excuses that turned out to be lies. It turned out that she was sleeping with another guy and seeing him on the side. She was taking from me but having a relationship with him.So I spoke to her the other day. It's been a while. She is not a happy person. I asked her why she lied to me. She said she realized she was wrong in things she did and she was going to change.I do not believe her but I want to believe that people can change. But I think it is an excuse. She has a promiscuous past. It is sort of like an alcoholic who says he is going to change. It can happen but it is VERY hard.So I am asking you what you think. Do you think she can change? I was in mental anguish for a long time after I broke from her. I don't want to get involved again if she is going to hurt me again.Thank you.Burt
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (15 April 2012):
People can change. But, from what I read about her, I don't think she's going to. She doesn't even regret what she did. My best counsel here is DUMP HER.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2012): Short answer is YES people can change. It takes work to change yourself in regards to anything, but it is possible. The fact is can you put the past in the past and take the risk to try again with this girl. Everytime you get involved in any relationship you risk being hurt, it's a part of life. In the end it's up to you, if you decide to give her a chance, I would suggest going slowly and protect your heart. If you don't want to take the risk, then I suggest you move on and find someone else. It is possible for people to change.
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