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writes:I have been talking to the same guy for about 2 montha. last night, he asked me out and of coarse, i said yes. i totally like him a lot! but the thing is, he is mixed and my dad is racists jerk. imm not telling him anything about it yet, but i honestyly think this boy and i will last a while.. one da he is going to find out. im like extremely nervous because there is no way im ever going to hurt my new boyfriend. i seriously like him. ive known him forever but my dads just a jerk and wont allow me to date mixed guys. but the thing is, his dad is black and his mom is white, but his dad left him a longggg time ago. if your advice is tell my dad and get over it, then dont evven bother. i refuse to take that advice in. Reply to this Question
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (15 April 2012):
 You'll have to wait it out till you're 18 (that's when you reach adulthood in my country, I'm not so sure about yours but it should be 18 too, I think) and then do exactly what you want to. But till then, play it down and bide your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2012): ". . . there is no way im ever going to hurt my new boyfriend"
But be very very aware your father is going to do whatever he can to hurt him and hurt you in the course of doing whatever he can to break you up when he finds out you're dating a guy of mixed race, which he will soon enough.
Your father may be a racist jerk but he is also the legal guardian of his minor daughter, meaning in this situation he has all the power to the extent of having boyfriend arrested for statutory rape if applicable.
Do not underestimate your father's ability and legal authority to make you and boyfriend's life as miserable as dear old Dad wants. Let your boyfriend know just how bad a racist your father is, boyfriend may not want risk a relationship with you for very good reason and if he decides not to go any further then you should respect his decision.
Your father isn't going to change but until you're a legal adult or legally emancipated then his word goes (barring any abuse or other alleged criminal activity).
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reader, Bball02Megan +, writes (15 April 2012):
Hun, my sister is going through the ssame thing right now. she is not speaking to her dad because of it. If you are happy then there is no point in changing somone who makes you happy. just because he is blackk, dayymm people are always judging people because of the color of their skin. How cares if they are mexican, white. or native american. they are still people && they can fuck off everyone how is tryyna ruin peoples relatioinship. Stay with him girl, no one needs to knoww but you & the rest of the people who arn't critical jerks. ? hoppe i helpped you, at least alittle bitt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2012): It's too early for you to make decision.take few years to see how it works.later if your father comes to know you can tell that he is very caring
And you r happy with him
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