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36-40,
*ettyBoup
writes:I know this isn't really a relationship problem, although it affects my relationship, it's more of a life problem. I feel like I don't know what Iwant to do with my life, like I have no passion or real desire to do any specific career. I have begun a course in art and psychology and I enjoy it but I just don't feel confident in my abilities to go further with it. I'm not driven enough to do good art. I know I have some talent but I'm afraid to try sometimes because I'm afraid of not being good enough. I find it hard to get started and don't achieve my potential.I'd love to help people and be a counsellor but I'm a really shy, awkward person, and I've found it REALLY hard to be in interpersonal development groups because I'm so shy. I couldn't join in. So I don't know how I'd be able to lead conversations with strangers day to day, Although I know I'd be good at it, if I could get over my shyness. I'm a great listener and I genuinely want to help people, I'm non judgemental and empathetic. It's just that in social situations I can get real anxiety, where I shake, get nauseas, I hold back and don't speak. I know shyness gets you nowhere. But I have taken on this role for so long in my life I don't know how to be anyone else. I don't know how to be myself or at least, be something with people I don't know and trust. Heck I'm even shy with my old friends!So I guess I just wonder if anyone else to overcome their shyness/social phobia and gone on to do what they want to do?
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reader, 333  +, writes (8 April 2010):
I know how you feel because I've been there. I was super shy when I was younger. I didn't speak at all in school. Some thought I was even mute! I was (still am) shy, but not as shy as I was in the past.
First of all, you need to take baby steps.
You can't stop being shy over night.. its a hard process but you can do it!
I'm sure you must at least have one good friend. Be confident in yourself.
I had a tough time. I struggled Being shy is no fun at all.
Just be yourself and see how others act. I'm quite awkward aswell. I don't know what to say half of the time but relaxing always helps. (;
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 You need to be confident about yourself. It will take time and practice . Shyness can be overcome .I suggest you Google online for more tips to overcome your shyness.
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