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writes:Hey, I was wondering about this. I want a boyfriend, and one issue i was afraid would come up is that I'm not a religious person. (not that there's anything wrong with it) I know that LOTS of people are religious, and it would probably be really hard to find someone who either doesn't go to church or anything or who doesn't care if I'm that way. I was just wondering if anyone could give me any tips on how to deal with this. Reply to this Question
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (18 July 2008):
 Hey
I am Atheist and I am proud of it! I dont care what people say .. for example bebe girlie that called you "person with no identity" how dare is she .. you have identity if you are religious or not!!
Thats actually why I am not religious ..cause people with religion (most of them! not trying to offend anyone!)make me sick when they talk crap about us, people without a religion and try to make us feel like we are less people thatn they are. And again .. Not trying to offend anyone, but I seriously have only this kinda experience with religious people (especially freaks like mormons and Jehova)
I dont care if anyone is religious or not. I am not telling them "Oh but God is bull shit!" .. like they call us "People with no identity" and such! I respect everyone. My BF is Greek Ortodox and I respect his faith, but it doesnt mean that I will have it too, just because we are together.
There is many people without a religion dont worry. Here in the states its lil more difficult finding anyone like that cause most americans are religious (somehow) ... if you were in Europe, you would be in heaven!
Hope you will find the one you are looking for soon!
Good luck
And dont worry ... YOU DO HAVE IDENTITY!
XOXO
Lierin
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reader, Tigger3165 +, writes (17 July 2008):
 i'm not sure where you are from, or the kind of people around you... but i am the same way you are... i don't believe in any organized religion... but i am with a religious man... as long as you find one who is willing to love you for who you are, it should be okay because he won't pressure you to be religious... its a matter of just looking for that one person who will love you for you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): there are loads of boys out there that are not into religion u hav just got to try the right places join a club your interested in or sumin
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (17 July 2008):
 bebe_girlie, your post offends me. It really doesn't hurt my feelings, but I just find it untrue. I have no religion and that is my choice, but it doesn't mean I have no faith...and it doesn't mean I have no identity. I do believe that God (Christian) exist and that he cares for us, but I find all religion pointless (without exception, sorry if this offends anyone). My lack of religion has not withered my faith, in fact, it's just stronger.As to your answer, yes you'll probably find someone who will accept your lack of religion, but it will be kind of hard. Most people like to stay compatible with someone, including religion due that two different sets of religions tend to cause tension in a couple. But at your age, most guys will take the religion issue out of what they wish in a relationship. Probably it might come in eventually in the relationship, but if the guy loves you for real, he will accept it as it is and love you the same. There have been couples that have worked who have different religions in their households, so don't give up hope.Now, I just hope that as much you expect people to respect your choice of not having a religion, that you respect others that have chosen one. I have heard countless of people who *say* they don't have a religion and bash those who do, but it just shows that they're immature and probably posers since not having a religion and lack of all faith is very popular now because "it sets out of the mainstream" (doesn't it remind you of emo?) It sounds just sad to me if they do it for the wrong reasons.
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reader, bebe girlie  +, writes (17 July 2008):
The tip I give you is to be religous because without religion you have no identity.
Take care
and Good luck with that .. Hope God gives you faith and enlightens you..
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