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writes:Hi,Is it possible that someone suffering with depression would call it off with one person who she can only see at weekends then later start seeing a friend close by because it's easier to cope with with their illness? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2013): Thanks for your reply. Well she told me she wants me to be in her life still and would really love to stay friends. I am not sure what she means by this but I don't want it out of pity because I've waited a long time for her only to go with her friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2013): As someone with depression, one of the main things I hate is that you don't have the motivation or energy to do things that require any effort I.e. a LDR. She may also be just a lazy person- either of these things (I'm both! :/ haha) then it's certainly likely! Like the first poster said, it could just be a smokescreen- she may have developed very strong feelings for this guy. Things don't work and people find they're not incompatible more often than not I've found. It's not any reflection on you, don't doubt yourself as it's just one of those things. Try not to contact her for a while, apart from maybe a message one e every couple of months seeing if she's doing well, IF you care a lot for her. If not so much let it go x Either way give her space :) good luck! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2013): Thanks. That makes sense. She did actually find it difficult to call it off, she kept saying "I can't offer a relationship right now". I waited a long time, but she couldn't tell me things had developed with a friend until recently either.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (22 August 2013):
 Hi,
If this is what has happened, then yes it's possible.
Depression is complicated, horrible for the sufferer and those around them (who also suffer).
The person might have called it off because of their depression, then "later" (not sure how much time has passed) felt a bit healthier and in the right mindset for a relationship.
I suppose it could also be a smokescreen. i.e. depression was cited as the reason to call things off when that wasn't the whole issue.
Depression can also suck the energy out of people, making long distance/ weekend-only relationships difficult. The depressed person may also feel that they need more support than seeing someone only at weekends. Someone close by can offer more support, so the depressed person feels more comfortable and able to cope.
Hope that helps.
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