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writes:Is it okay to fantasize about other men other than my boyfriend or watch movies with actors that I find very attractive? I wouldn't do this if he was around, only when I'm alone and if the urge sometimes comes up and I don't watch movies that often, only if they come up on TV. My b/f and I have a good sex life but sometimes I think about other people. He probably does the same thing, think about other women, but for some reason it makes me feel guilty and disloyal when I do it. I think maybe because he looks nothing like the men in my fantasies, but I think he's beautiful in his own unique way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): It's really normal! I always do that. For me it's actually healthy in our relationship to have these celebrities to dream about, so instead of fantasizing about other "real" people, we're pre-occupied admiring these celebs. I'd rather my boyfriend fantasize about a female celebrity than this girl he met outside.
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reader, iAintYourAunt +, writes (16 February 2008):
 I don't think it's important. I think we all do it. I've gotta have the Depp myself. Hopefully you'd be ok with him about lassies in that sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): LOL.....I think that you are doing what over 100 million other women are doing! There is nothing wrong with it. I remember when Tom Selleck of Magnum PI fame was on television here in the US. Millions of women (black and white) would sit at home and masturbate to his tv image. I couldn't believe it, but many women fantasize about actors, singers, newscastors and othe rmovie and t.v. personalities. There is nothing wrong with this. Men also do this 'fantasy thing'! Beyonce Knowles, Halle Barry, Drew Barrymore an dmillions of other females have a thong of men just fantasizing about them each and everyday.
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reader, shelleyanne +, writes (15 February 2008):
 I'm pretty sure that's just one of those things that everybody does, but don't necessarilly want to admit to. It's completely natural as long as you a) aren't planning on acting on these impulses or b) aren't setting standards for your man that he can't live up to. As long as they're just for your own amusement don't worry. A strong sexual imagination is very healthy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): You shouldn't feel guilty about it, as long as your fantasies are jokes, in a sense. It's when you start wishing he was like these actors that a problem arises. I'm sure there's a million women in a relationship out there that wouldn't mind a bit of Johnny Depp or Hugh Grant :] I'm sure if you actually told him about this he wouldn't mind, and I mean, after all, men as a cliche DO in fact watch porn. I know this is generalising, but hey. He'll have watched it at some point in his life. It's natural to feel a bit guilty after you see someone you find attractive and imagine them in the place of your partner, it's just normality. Don't worry honey :]
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