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writes:Is it normal for your boyfriend to begin acting like a jerk? Mine has started ignoring me for 15 hours at a time for video games, telling me he doesn't like texting because it annoys him, never wants to stay on the phone with me, and hardly ever wants to see me. Sometimes I want to ask him why he even keeps me around if he doesn't want to see me or talk to me or text me. Why is he being such a butthead? He still tells me he loves me, and he has been REALLY stressed lately which will put anyone in a bad mood, but should I have to put up with being treated like crap just because he is having a little bit of a stressful time? I'm under stress too, but I am always kind and sweet to him. Is it a guy thing?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 April 2013):
 does he want sex when he sees you?
do you two still go out and do things and have fun?
if not, then you my dear have been reduced to an FWB...
if he's under stress folks react to stress differently and this is how he is. It will not change. His reaction to stress is to detox in front of the video games. your way to de-stress is probably different and may involve venting or crying or shopping.... who knows....
if you feel that you are being treated like crap, then leave him. I know it's not as easy as it sounds... but currently he is NOT the man you fell in love with, currently he's the jerk that is mistreating you.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (18 April 2013):
 While it is difficult to ascertain exactly what his motives are, it sounds like you are starting to see what your boyfriend is truly like when life gets difficult.
Your boyfriend may love you but his actions are speaking louder than words.
I think you have one of two choices here:
1) Ride this one out. He probably just needs some down time especially if he is truly stressed out. His form of relaxing and coping is to turn on the video games and tune out. The more you text him and interrupt his passive time, the more angry he will get. We all need alone time and this may be his way of dealing with his troubles. I know when I get home after a troubling day I just want to be left alone to relax for a while and even though someone means well, their consolations only make things worse. I imagine for some women this also happens.
2) Break up with him. If he treats you like this when the life gets difficult, imagine what he might be like if life gets even more challenging.
I think you need to give him a little space. Respect his wishes -- and with some time he will reach out to you. Hopefully this is just a passing phase and you'll get back to normalcy soon enough.
Eddie
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