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writes:I was wondering, is it normal for people to Facebook stalk their exes? I've recently caught my boyfriend looking up his ex a few times, just looking at her photos and stuff. This bothers me, but I have a feeling it's pretty normal behavior. I personally don't have any exes so I don't know what is normal and what isn't. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. He was with his ex for four years and she broke up with him about a year before he and I got together.He and she don't talk very often but when they do, he often seems to initiate it. He seems to make excuses to talk to her. Perhaps this is just his way of checking up on her to make sure she's ok? What do other people think? Is it normal to check up on your ex? Especially when they've been broken up for over two years?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2013): I went through this with my ex.I hated it, and we had constant fights about it.I realised being in a relationship like that, just made me feel like the third wheel, even though he was in a relationship with me, I felt I was always competing against his ex....she always won.So I got out.His next g/f will go through it, and so on, coz he hasn't moved on.Being in a new relationship doesnt mean you have moved on from the last relationship. You need to think about you, and be with someone is totally into YOU, and not hung up on his ex.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (21 September 2013):
 I feel for you.
He's in a relationship with you and has been for a year and half yet still checks up on and instigates chats with his ex!
Why? Have you asked him? There is absolutely no reason, in my opinion, for him do this unless he's still carrying a torch for her.
In my opinion this is disrespectful to you. It begs the question that he's treating you as the second prize!
He can't have her so he'll settle for you. This is how it appears to me. I hope I'm wrong but I can't see any other reason why he would do this.
You deserve an honest explanation and a man who is devoted to your relationship and not hung up on the past. You're worth much more than that!
I hope this helps AB x
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