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writes:My boyfriend and i have decided that we are ready to take it to the next level and i love and trust him 100% but i'm really nervous and scared. he has been with two other girls and this will make my first time. Is it normal for me to be scared? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): It would be weird if you weren't scared! However as he's done it before he probably knows what he's doing. Make sure you use protection, definitely a condom and ideally some other form as well. It can hurt the first time but the more nervous you are, the tenser you'll be and the more it'll hurt. Relax, get aroused first so your body is prepared, go slowly and use lube. Good luck =]
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (12 November 2008):
 Yes, you should be very afraid that you are making possibly the biggest mistake of your life at too young an age.
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reader, loveaddict01 +, writes (12 November 2008):
I recently became sexually active. I was nervous, not so much scared, but definitely nervous. and my friends have also said that they were nervous. but if he really cares about you and you trust him, you have nothing to be scared about. just make sure that you're absolutely positive about this. and don't forget to be safe =]
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reader, violet835  +, writes (12 November 2008):
Well it's something new so that can be scary no matter it is. But it is important that you feel ready, and that you're not just doing it because you think you should feel ready, or because you know your boyfriend wants it. If he really loves you, he will want you to be ready, so that you can enjoy it as well. If you're worried he will go elsewhere if you don't sleep with him, then you know right away he is only with you because he wants sex. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but if he loves you, he will wait until you're sure it's what you want. However, it's possible to want to, and be scared at the same time. I was very worried my first time that it would hurt, and that the guy wouldn't like it lol. But don't worry, if you spend enough time with foreplay beforehand, it won't hurt as much because your body will be ready, and, the guy always likes it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): Soo...you mean as in sex?....if your age range is 13-15...why are wanting to have sex? There are risks to it. If hes done this with the other girls...what if he has something that can be handed down to you.
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