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writes:I recently had a little boy by c section...my problem is im not sure who his father is. I slept with two guys around the time he was conceived and they both know this. Now one of them is staying with me and helping me raise the baby. He signed the birth certificate and everything. He is convinced the baby is his and i can tell he is just so in love with him. But i really dont know and it makes me feel so guilty. We cant afford a paternity test and i dont really want to do one now because it will just kill him if hes not his. What is the right thing for me to do here? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): hi...thanks for the advise guys...i will definitly think about it. For right now i guess we will just go with the flow...lol.
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reader, violet835  +, writes (12 November 2008):
There is only one way you will have peace of mind and that's with a paternity test. One other point though I'd like to make is that a father isn't just the biological father, it's the man who raises the child and fulfills the father role. If he loves this child, and you love him, I'd say just acting like a normal family is the best option for everyone. If he's the one you've ended up with it's for a reason, obviously you're better suited to him, and/or you think he'd be a better father and person to have a family with, which is a very good reason to just get on with life and enjoy your family. There is a good chance the baby is his anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): A praternity test is good to save up for. Sounds like yo uboth communicate well. Tell him it is your intention for the kids sake to know who the real father is. If he want to be WITH YOU, and for that reason willing still to take the baby on then great. A family is a family. In itme the kid will want to know if he was adopted or what...No rush on it. Save up for it. Wouldn't you want to know??
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