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writes:Can anyone tell me, is it normal for a man, after a 12 hour love-making session the day before and a night spent together, to wake up the next morning, switch on the computer in the bedroom, and start wanking to porn while his girlfriend (me) is in the bed? I was just so hurt. Talking about it later (I stormed off when it happened) he said he'd done it all his life and I couldn't expect him to change. On another occasion, I had bad menstrual pain and got up, he was wanking to porn when I returned. He's capable of wanking for 5-6 hours a day. All that practise makes him a good at sex, but our relationship is dwindling despite the fact that we live together, because I'm afraid to even knock on his door now for fear of what he's up to. Is this normal?
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (30 September 2008):
 I think you should retrieve yourself from this relationship because it's never going to be anything but sex-thing for him and a woman needs more of an emotional connection. It will be hard to let go since the sex is amazing with this guy, but eventually you'll discover that it's more important to have someone you can count on through thick and thin. Buy a good vibrator and start surfing the dating sites. It's time to find someone you can really count on. I think this man is simply addicted to sex and he is probably banging more than just you honey. Good luck.
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reader, HOLLEE Price  +, writes (19 September 2008):
no....... i would bet he is a sex addict
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2008): Good grief! 12 hours of sex and then 6 hours of wanking? I think he could be the male equivalent of a nymphomaniac, whatever they are called, or cannabis isn't the only thing he's using. I have heard that cocaine has this effect but I don't know for sure. Maybe he's had an overdose of Viagra or similar 'helper'. Maybe he's 'suffering' from priapism.
Christ, his knob must be red raw. I know mine would be!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answer, yes it is a waste of time I've always thought. Good to get some male perspective on it though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2008): No! Wanking for 5-6 hours a day? What a waste of time, what a waste of a life. I tell you I am a healthy man with a good libido and I couldn't spend more than 15 minutes wanking before my wrist got tired and/or I got bored and moved onto something else. Not to mention 12 hours of sex? And still not satisfied- He has serious issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies, no the 12hour sessions weren't that often, just that our time together was limited because of my working hours, so we tended to make the most of what time we had! No, he doesn't have a problem coming during normal sex but he does smoke a lot of cannabis. At the moment I'm having a hard time, my mum is ill and my oldest friend died, and he can't give me any emotional support at all. He says he's sorry about it but I think he just doesn't have the emotional capacity. The trouble is, the sex (which hasn't happened for weeks because I'm grieving} is so fantastic. I suppose I have to make up my mind if I can accept that it will never be any more than great sex. I'm confused really! and rather needy emotionally at the moment. Also this man is a lot younger than me and I think my time is running out for finding someone. Thanks again for your replies, I don't have many friends I could talk with frankly about this. Those I have talked it over with say I should just use him for sex! But that's not really possible, I need emotional support and love to want sex. I'm answering my own questions aren't I ?
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reader, Sugarbuns +, writes (17 September 2008):
Holy cow, I don't think switching on the porn is the only abnormal thing you guys have going on. Who in the world has time for a 12 hour sex session? Not that it's a bad thing, it's just not that common. I'm sort of wondering if your'e dealing with a guy who's a bit of a sex addict. I mean, who has energy to surf for porn after having sex for 12 hours? Yes, you have every right to be pissed. There is something very unusual about his sexual appetite.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2008): U dont deserve that thats so degrading. Im 18 but when i read that then saw your age i couldnt believe a man or so called man of that age category would do that he is a loser he shouldnt treat you like that no wonder u got so upset hey id still be ripped up over it 2 :( just keep smiling :) see like that hehe
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reader, kinkydude +, writes (17 September 2008):
no, this is not normal. My partner and I make love from evening till morning and I never have desire to wank to porn afterwards...it totally thoughtless and selfish... does he have trouble have orgasm during normal sex?
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