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writes:is it only me or you guys see that lots of young has experienced sex already, and they are so open about it.do you have kids that age (13-15ish) are they doing it? are you aware of it?i don't have kids, and I'm not going to for that reason.i just need other's opinion on the matter Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 As a much older man (62), I would be a hypocrite to condemn what is going on today because I began at age 14 at a public park in Texas. The girl was older, and it occurred in the back seat of a 1954 Ford sedan. But that was about 1961 and I was considered a very early participant in sexual activity in those years. Of course, at the time, I was very open about it and continued throughout youth. Well, I've never stopped, but I also married at 31 in a faithful 20 year marriage.
Here's the thing. I do not think it has been all that different throughout most or all of human history. It is certainly better to await more mature years before engaging in sexual activity, especially intercourse, but the powerful urge naturally begins early in puberty, sometimes before.
All the open and sexual input on television, movies and Internet today has inspired a much more permissive society than the one I grew up in during the 1950-60s. The youngest teens should still refrain and try to satisfy urges in the safest ways, such as kissing, some petting and masturbation. The most extreme should stop after oral activity, and short of intercourse.
But finally, your inclination to avoid fatherhood due to the activities of adolescents and teens due to the sexual activities going on today, and in the future, would probably leave you very lonely in your latter years, lacking children and grandchildren to nurture and enjoy all your life. Think about that.
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reader, reign154 +, writes (12 February 2010):
hi. ok i dont have any kids because i am only 18 so i will wait another couple of years to even think about that. but i can honestly tell you that yes there are kids around my age especially and even younger who willingly talk about sex. to me sex isn't that big of a deal as people make it opt to be i mean sure you have to be careful to not transmit diseases and there is the worry of getting pregnant, but other than that sex is nothing but a pleasure. i have alot of friends that describe sex as chocolate saying that they can only go without it for a short time, but for me that is no help since i don't care for chocolate and don't really care about having sex any time soon. i have a younger sister and i watch over her carefully because i don't want her to get pregnant or have sex with any of these guys that use girls as something to help them get off other than their hands. i have friends that have kids and their baby fathers aren't even in the pictures so basically they are struggling to get diapers and baby food instead of doing what they should as kids which is having freedom, fun, and enjoying the small things in life that we wont be able to enjoy as much when we are adults. Parents think sex is such a dirty word but you don't get that by the time we are in elementary we know about sex and i am not talking about the stork dropping the baby off either i mean the actual sex between people and its not from our teachers but from each other. the way society is going i wouldn't be surprised if a 4 year old kid could tell me different sex positions. that may be a little raunchy but it is true. kids today know very well of sex even more than what our parents do because everyday somebody is trying something new and passing it onto other people who pass it on its like a sex connection kids have. i wouldnt worry about it though becasue kids today arent as innocent as we seem you may think we dont know alot abut whats going on but we know so much more than what we are able to handle. once again i am in no rush to have sex i want to wait for that special person i am actually in love with and then maybe after that one time i will be able to have sex with who ever i want, but for now i dont need to let what sex tips or how many guys i have slept with to guide me, but rather just have fun and enjoy what it means to be a kid before i have to grow up. i hope this helped. let me know sometime.
xoxoxoxo Reign :)
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