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writes:Hi all.So, I like to write poems, and sometimes I write to sort of have a release for my emotions.So sometimes I may feel a bit crappy about my ex-boyfriend, so I write poetry that kind of expresses how I feel. My question is, is it kind of lame that I'm still writing poetry relating to him even though he broke up with me a year ago? I say "relating to him" because it's not about HIM, but rather the way I feel about everything.Thanks for your opinions.
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reader, frou frou  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 Sounds like a plan and you know best what will help in this situation. Sometimes it's not good to dwell. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone! You made me feel better about it; however, I think I will focus my creative writing on other things, and if I feel to write about things relating to him, maybe I'll consider the future/moving on rather than bad feelings from the past? It might be better. Thanks again!
And CindyCares - I love Federico García Lorca's work. :)
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reader, frou frou +, writes (7 July 2011):
No, I don't think it's lame. I actually think it's pretty healthy. But it doesn't even sound like you're really writing about him - as you say, more the way you feel about everything. I actually think you've probably moved on completely, and are using the story about what happened with your ex for a good backdrop to write about things you are upset about and the way you feel now, and there's nothing wrong with that. But you do have to remember to separate reality from fiction and not get so involved in your writing that you behave in an innappropriate way if you say, bump into him in the street. Use the story for all it's worth, but remember not to take what you write too literally, if you see what I mean.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 It's good from an artistic point of view : )- lost or unrequited love has inspired some of the most exquisite, touching love poems ever, from Sappho to Keats, Garcia Lorca, Pablo Neruda, etc...
It's bad from a psychological point of you for your healing and recovery ( if you still need them )- the least you dwell on the past, the faster you move on. Look forward, not backward.
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reader, Battista +, writes (6 July 2011):
I don't think it's lame at all, however I would imagine that if he is in your thoughts on a regular basis it would make it much harder to move on from him. I would also say that if you are still writing about him for emotional release a year after he broke up with you then that sort of illustrates what I mean. A year is quite a long time, and I think it would probably be far healthier for you to try and focus your creative impetus onto something else which might help you look forward rather than back. I don't think it is healthy to dwell on old relationships in this way, so I personally would advise you to try and find something or someone else as a sort of muse if you can. If you are still feeling bad about your ex at this stage I really think that trying to focus your thoughts away from him is better at this stage. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): You shouldn't worry about that, when I'm feeling down I write or draw things that relate to how I am feeling.When I was younger I had problems at home and I still write about them, your human and if you need to express yourself in some way then poetry is a great way.If I were you I wouldn't worry about it and it's not like you are showing anyone anyway, and it is a lot better than what a lot of people do to express how they are feeling I hope I helped x
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