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writes:is it bad that im 16 and still haven't my first kiss, or better yet a realationship at all? I feel like im the only one at school that hasn't even had a guy that has said anything nice to me yet. :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2013): Yo, it doesn't matter AT ALL! Trust me, I'm 18, never been kissed, nor girl has EVER tried to kiss me, I've never tried to kiss a girl etc. basically I'm extremely asexual. like a worm. Sorry, that was a bad joke. But seriously, did you know that worms are asexual? Woah!anyway, it doesn't matter one bit, people may pressure you to go for a kiss (my friends constantly remind me of how i'm the 'lip virgin' of the group), but you know what? its high school, none of this stuff matters. Friends, your school work, your sport, art, drama, all that stuff is why we're in high school, not trying to hook up or make out with someone.Don't be pressure to kiss someone now, or have a boyfriend or anything like that. When it happens, it happens, and hopefully its with someone SPECIAL.Know how you can trust me? I'm a guy, telling you not to hook up with other guys. If any other dude found out I was telling you this, they would neuter me or something. So don't worry, be happy, and relax, you've still got many more years to have that first amazing kiss.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (22 June 2013):
 I know exactly how you feel, as I was growing into a teenager, I used to constantly think things like this through. When I was about 12-13, I was very different, compared to the other girls in my school, I didn't fit in, I was very over weight, I had long black hair and obsession with a techno band named the Prodigy, I hated make up, all my friends were boys, I didn't own a pair of hair straightners, and fashion in general didn't bother me, I got my first kiss, through a game of truth and dare! This phase lasted until I was about 14 almost 15. Throughout it all I watched my friends get boyfriends and experience new things. I felt left out, very stupid and lonely. I'd sit ad crave a relationship or something like that. But trust me, everyone has there time when they meet someone, and can experience that "loved up feeling". It isn't bad at all, and you shouldn't feel that way, relationships also aren't as all cracked up as they seem. I have been different relationships since the age of 15, and now i'm actually happy to be single. They also can bring problems into your life, and well you have the arguments and everything, and for teenagers it can be very difficult. So enjoy this time why you have it, be free, and enjoy being free, just like everyone else, you will have your time, even if it involves waiting. Wait for love to come to you, and make sure that when you do find someone who you can experience your first kiss with etc, make sure you test them out, and if it involves more waiting, do it, because the longer you wait the better it will be for when it does happen. as they say "good things come to those who wait". quack.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2013): Bad in what sense? That you think you need this to complete you? - or more likely that it looks bad to people who see relationships as the trendiest new pastime? - "iamheretohelp" makes a very important point I believe- imagine that you're in your early twenties and you didn't get the grades/ course/ college you've always wanted- you're stumbling through a maze wondering where your life's going, and who you are a d what you need to rely on within yourself to get out the maze- are you going to be dwelling on the fact you didn't do something at 16 because it was the cool thing to do? Now is the time to focus on becoming the person you aim to be, and whatever you want to do for a career. Here's a link for a question where the advice applies to you :) http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-strange-or-just-a-part-of.htmlGood luck :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2013): Chill, lady. Work on loving yourself. Have fun. Get a hobby or two and kick ass at them. It's not as important as it seems now, I promise.
Let nature take its course...and if nature takes ten years to send the right guy along, so be it. I understand being lonely, just don't let your self-worth hinge on this. And DEFINITELY don't go dating the first dude that manages to stammer out something resembling a compliment.
--Single Until Age 25
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (21 June 2013):
 you are young. at your age everything seems to take forever to happen, but that is not true.
"i feel like i am the only one at school that hasn't even had a guy that has said anything nice to me yet." that is more than likely not true you just feel that way, and hearing other girls brag, and talk. most of the stories the other girls are telling is stretched truth at best.
you are young don't get in a hurry, and don't give yourself any regrets to look back own. there is a guy out there for you don't push it, and you are only 16. you have a life time a head of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2013): "a guy that has said anything nice to me yet."Having a boyfriend whisper sweet nothings to you isn't exactly desirable, OP. You feel that you're the only one at school that hasn't...but have you actually asked everyone in the school? Some people are just good at hiding things. At 16, just worry about school and going to college (if you intend to take this route). That's probably not something you want to hear, but whatever boyfriend you make in high school...chances are, you're not going to see them again after graduating. Is the experience worth it. Sometimes. Does it pay off? I can't say. I'm going to be 21 soon and I haven't kissed a guy, held a guy's hand, had a boyfriend, etc. It's not that I can't talk to guys or that I'm unapproachable. I'm just focused on other things and I've never felt pressured by my peers or made insecure about my relationship status.If you have to think about the fact you're being single and feel bad about, then I think it's probably better if you stayed single. Looking for a boyfriend because everyone else has one or because you feel lonely is not good.
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