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writes:the girl i'm seeing she is very beautiful, but the problem is that. So many guys want her and they will do or say anything to convince her they're better than me! We go out together on nights out at least once a week because our friends are friends, and of course there's always that once girl in the club who gets every guy and that's her, it seems every guy wishes they were with her. And when they see i'm with her, guys tell me i'm a hell of a lucky guy, or go on about how she's a keeper and i've done well that she's so beautiful and so on. Even I hear it from my friends how attractive she is and they say i've done too good for myself with her. I'm aware of how beautiful she is, I think it all of the time with her and the fact she's got this amazing personality too, it makes me more crazy for her. I do think i'm a good looking guy and she seems to really like me so i do feel like a lucky guy even i wonder how i managed to get someone like her! But the amount of guys that throw themselves at her and that she knows does make me feel jealous a lot of the time. I wont lie that i love when people see i'm the guy she's with, when she tells a guy she's already taken, or makes it clear that she's with me and likes me only is a really nice feeling, it does make me think that out of all of these guys she's chosen me and likes me! But I keep thinking why has she chosen me and likes me so much!? Is it ever a good thing to be with a girl who every other guy wants (even your best friends). I don't know if it's a good or bad situation and how can i stop thinking so jealously and negative about it, when i should be happy!
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reader, Hennessy1989  +, writes (22 November 2012):
 I felt a bit like this when I first got with my girlfriend, the whole why the hell is she with me syndrome, she sounds like a great girlfriend, she's given you no reason to doubt her, keep these thoughts at bay, enjoy the fact that she's your woman, she's happy, your happy, there's no problem here
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reader, person12345  +, writes (22 November 2012):
 Being that woman can suck a lot of the time. I promise you, these other guys hitting on her in the club are zero threat to your relationship. Sometimes it's flattering, but a lot of the time it's just creepy. You definitely don't have to worry that some random guy in a club saying "WHOA YOU'RE HOT" is going to steal her away from you. And any guy who continues to hit on her when he knows she has a boyfriend is pretty much guaranteed to be instantly labelled as creepy, maybe dangerous for failing to respect her boundaries.
I guarantee you someone like that is really happy to finally have a guy who isn't trying to creep on her or harass her, who just wants to be with her. I get stared at a lot and I am so happy to have my boyfriend with me and just be with him. She has decided she wants you, you've clearly done something above and beyond. When she gets hit on all the time, she has to put up a sort of wall. You've gotten through that.
Hot women don't want the pervy guys who make random comments about their beauty, trust me on this. It might be flattering, sometimes, but it's not attractive.
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