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writes:i am 31 married wth kids. The problem is the love has gone out of the relationship. Over the past 5-6mths i have ben seeing someone else and have fallin in love with him, (he also feels the same) we both feel the same about each other. (he also has kids and a partner). We have had some gd times 2gether, but unfortunatley he got caught by his partner, for the kids sakes she has taken him back and given him another chance, so needless to say we have had to end it. my partner has no idea tho. we both agreed that our kids came first, but i love him so much it hurts so much to let go. we are staying friends is the a gd idea and how do i get over him. Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 January 2008):
 You get over him by focusing on your own family and your problems with your marriage. That will leave very little time lusting for your ex lover who obviously values his other relationship over the affair he had with you. Wake up before you lose everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): no you cant.it wont work. you must move on.Ive bin there - didnt work for me - ended in divorce, hurt kids and no relationship with the other. If you have issues within your marraige that is a seperate thing - but you must distance youself from this other person - cos you cannot see clearly until you do
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (2 January 2008):
 Oh, what a tangled web we weave . . . .
No, it's not a good idea to stay friends with him. Go to a marriage counselor and see if you can restore your broken marriage . . . for YOUR kids sake.
It's odd how people can put their own lust ahead of what's best for their own children. Actually, it's sad.
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