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writes:hi. im seventeen and overweight (I'm 5'4" and 160lbs). I have a friend who I know likes me, and I like him a lot, but I think he wants me to loose weight before we can date... Im not really sure, but I get that impression, especially since he's really fit and energetic.I have always had a strong sence of determination and I know that i could loose all the weight if I really wanted to.... The problem is that ever since early high-school (when I gained the weight), I have realised who my true friends/boyfriends are and its nice to know that they care about me instead of how i look. If he is shallow enough to think that the weight matters, then do I really need him?(P.S I know it isn't the fact that being overweight is unhealthy, because hes a very heavy smoker)
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reader, cd206  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 You shouldn't change for anyone else. Only change if you want it for yourself. That's the mistake I made a while back. I went on a massive diet for a guy I liked and when he dumped me I piled a lot (though not all of the weight back on) For what it's worth I think what you said about people liking you despite the fact that you're overweight is very true. He likes you now so there's no reason to think he wants you to change but do it if it makes you feel comfortable about yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): Dont ever consider changing yourself for anybody else.You have to do it for yourself.If he wants to change how you look now and you make those changes he would of won not you and what will happen in the future if theres something else he dont like about you say your hair clothes etc.You will always be under pressure to always look your best.If he cant accept you for who you are now then he is not worth bothering with.Nobody in this life is perfect,Some people think they are but they are not.And i doudt he is far from perfect himself.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 I always believed that people would be happier if the changes they made were for themselves and not for somebody else.
Don't loose weight just so some shallow guy will like you, do it because you want it for yourself.
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