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writes:i know it is kind of snobby to be picky about guys outer appearance, but i cant get over how short he is! i really like his personality and his looks, but he is way shorter than me. WAY. like i am 5'4 and he is 5'. i dont want to sound like a jerk, but i cant date him with how short he is. any advise on this would help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Well you are rather young so maybe he will grow taller with time but then only maybe.Look, if you're not happy with his appearance, that's cool. Looks DO play a big part in the way we're attracted to eachother so don't have any qualms on that score. Looks are what attracts us in the first place - personality second. That's the way life is, in spite of others' comments like 'shallow' etc.By the way, 5 foot is freakishly short for a guy so I'd be inclined to look further afield rather than be dogged by this.Good luck.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (22 December 2008):
 As a guy, and a short one. If you snub him now, in a year or two when he is taller he will remember. And the same goes for you sophmore girls who like to date senior boys. Next year they will be gone and the boys in your class will remember how you were too good for them. This sounds kind of bitter but looking back on my high school years the thing I regret was not knowing untill it was too late that a girl in my class had always liked me. She was taller and liked older boys. I never knew i had a chance. BTW her older flame is now married to someone completly unlike her. I have no idea where she went.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): you can either get past being superficial and see if theres something there or just forget about him but the fact that you even wrote this post must mean that you like him
most people are superficial you are trying to look past his shortness so good on ya! but in the end of the day no1 on this post can tell you whether you should go for it or not.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (22 December 2008):
 If you can't date him, you can't date him. YES, it is superficial and YES, you should see him for who he is on the inside and how he treats you, but you know what? Sometimes there is just that great guy who you're just not physically attracted to for whatever reason.
If you just can't get past it, then move on to another fella. You're young, you can be picky. Just remember that he might be the greatest guy in the world and you're missing out - he'll probably hit a growth spurt in the next year and suddenly all the girls will be all over him and you'll have missed your chance.
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