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writes:I rented this flat, however, the landlady lives abroad so the only contact person is her cousin, who is a nice chap and all. Everything was going great until the weather conditions, rain, sleet, snow, hail you name it began... I've been having calls from the landlady's cousin, to ask me to have access to the terrace for "repair works". There is no damage whatsoever in my flat, it's dry and toasty warm. I even got an email on New Year's Eve from the landlady saying that the tenant's flat has water leaking and they "presume" it's coming from my terrace. He came first thing on New Year's Day to have " a look". It's been about 6 weeks and the same story every weekend, he texts me saying he needs to have a look at the terrace. I sometimes let him in as I'm home, or just let him help himself through as he's got the Master key access to all flats in the building. The thing is, I cannot see any damage or cracks from where I live. The house is relatively newly renovated, 5 years ago, and the insulation looks great and works fine at my place. My question is: Do you guys think he is trying to make me notice him? With him calling at strange hours to check on the roof? Or making excuses just to drop by and check again on the roof, when I know he drives from a long way. I ran into one neighbor and they did not mention problems with the roof once. Maybe, it would help if I mention that I did meet this chap for coffee when were signing the contract and we exchanged the normal pleasantries and the small talk actually lasted longer than the meeting actually required because I guess we clicked! Is it all in my head or is he trying to communicate a message in a subtle way, check me out as often as possible...As it won't sound professional at all if he asked me out like that since I'm a tenant?!! Would it also be helpful to mention that he stammers a lot and blushes when I talk to him. ?! Last night he came and started scraping the roof as it was hailing, I didn't see the point. It's not the first time I've seen hail in my life?!! Am I imagining things, or is there a leak in my head?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 February 2015):
 OH you are on the top... yes that explains it.. it's possible the roof has a leak that has not yet gotten to YOUR ceiling as there is probably space between your ceiling and the roof.
It sounds like it might be legitimate and that the cousin was doing his best to stop gap this till the engineer hubby came to town... ask for the husband to speak to you when he is done and let you know what's going on.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 February 2015):
 Why not just ask the person who lives below you, if they have had any water damage over New Years? If they say, no then you have your answer.
If the cousin (handyman) is not a trained roofer he might not know how to actually FIX it, but only how to temporarily fix it. Also the weather might make the more permanent fix impossible.
And IF the neighbors are NOT having problems, you contact the owner and ask her what's going on with him constantly stopping by to check the roof.
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reader, Tula +, writes (3 February 2015):
Tula is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMany thanks for the time you both too, WiseOwl and So_Very_Confused.
I am aware of him prying on me, but I really have nothing to hide; although I'm a very private person. I always leave my place immaculately clean and all my underwear and secret notes and diary under lock and key. However, it is getting over the top. Last week, he did bring a handy man to look at it, but I was not home. So I don't really know?! I did exchange emails with the landlady and she always nice. I did explain to her that there is an INVISIBLE crack or something alluding that there is actually no serious problem. Trouble is, I live in a foreign country at the moment and the culture is very different, however, I guess my complaisance has made me more of a fool. Now, I got an e-mail from her saying that her hubby, who happens to be an engineer is flying to town to check for the repair works himself and they need my permission to access, you guessed it, the roof.
So_Very_Confused, you are right, I live on the top floor, the only access to everything; it seems! Cheers
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 February 2015):
have you asked him why a new roof requires so much maintenance?
maybe your terrace is the only easy access to the roof?
if you are concerned can you ask your landlord via email?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2015): Let's get this question out of the way first. Are you asking this question because YOU are attracted to this man, and want to know if he might be interested in you?
The fact you mentioned that you "clicked," implies you like him.
Ambiguous questions are usually avoiding judgement; or trying not to look as though you might like someone you're afraid everyone else will judge in a negative way.
If by chance you are interested; his way of showing he's attracted to you is creepy and too intrusive.
If he has no reason to enter your flat, simply tell him; there is no evidence of leaking and you feel he has checked the problem enough. Suggest he hire a professional to take a look, or you will ask one of your handy male friends or relatives to take a look. Let your chosen handy-man tell the "Roof Nazi" that there is no damage. You should seek legal advice about tenant's rights, and property owner's legal right to access.
Landlords do not have the right to access your flat; unless there is an emergency or a legal eviction in progress. You do not live in a country that doesn't offer you rights as a tenant.
Don't foolishly show how naive you are, and allow him access, just because he makes one up. Let him know you are aware there is no problem, and you have a right to refuse him access. If he insists without your permission, than you make a complaint to the housing and rental authorities, or call the police. A man of character will be straight-forward with his intentions if he likes you. This guy could be married. He may also be snooping through your personal things, or rummaging through your underwear drawer when you aren't there.
Sounds creepy? Good! Because it is!
If a guy has to come off creepy and take liberties to get at you, that is not liking you in a healthy way. He's a total troll.
He is taking advantage of the fact he has easy access to a single woman's flat, and it's time you stop it. You have a right to privacy, and could be compromising your safety.
He may have been charming, but most creeps and sexual predators are. You shouldn't allow yourself to be flattered by men who use unusual schemes to bypass your right to accept or reject their advances. Don't allow this man to take liberties to access your home. You know there is no problem. Say so! Insist that he calls before coming and watch him like a hawk. Let him know you are uncomfortable.
I by no means intended to insult you, or make any presumption against you. You are purely innocent, and that is why he is taking advantage of your lack of knowledge of your rights. He hasn't done you any harm, but his persistent intrusions have gone exceedingly beyond the call. It's time you stopped it.
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