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*arahprettybby
writes:Ive been with this guy for a while now but about two years back while we were still in a relationship he started seeing this other girl for his sexual needs bc he wasnt getting it from me. We had oral and fooled around but never sex. Well they lost their virginities to eachother and had a sexual relationship for a couple months mixed in with me and him still seeing eachother. We broke up after that obviously...got back together quick..have been on and off since,and now its two years later and our relationship is amazing.... BUT.. I guess im still insecure about what happened and i ask him if he still loves her or has feelings for her he swears up and down that he doesnt. He says she ruined his life ect... (she really did do some things to literally ruin his life) But this doubt is causing me dwell on the past i have dreams about it all the time and everything. If i knew the truth i could deal with it but im just so unsure if we would even want me to know the truth.So do you think he could still have attachment to this girl ect...? He says she's "the devil that came into his life"..but im not so sure.Please be honest...I need to figure out the truth so i can start dealing and move on.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Of course you can't trust him because he cheated on you! Going back to his fuck buddy because you weren't giving it up..What a jackass. Personally, I wouldn't have taken him back, I don't know why you did. Now, let me ask you this..Are you giving him what he wants this time around?
Now, you're insecure and still have no trust in him. Let me tell you that a relationship won't function without trust, there will always be problems on the horizon. So either learn to trust him, or let it eat your mind away that he could still be seeing her and you continue to badger him about her eventually to end up in a break up. If you are giving him what he wants this time around, then I say no he's not straying back to his fuck buddy. Because you finally gave in and gave up your virginity. Did you miss that talk with your dad about guys only want what's between your legs? You must have. Get rid of this jerk, he's just after sex. If he wasn't then he wouldn't have cheated on you in the first place.
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