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writes:I met a gorgeous guy on Friday night and we got chatting. I found that we had so much in common and after a few hours, he kissed me and it was wonderful. We found out that we both play music, speak French, love animals, love travelling etc etc. - the list was endless. At 2am, the bar was closing so he said he was having a few beers back at his with his mates and invited my friends and I over. We went back and we had a few drinks, listened to music, danced and kissed some more. He was telling me that he loves to cook and would love to have me over some evening this week for dinner - I said that we'd organise it over the weekend. At 5am we left and he called me when I got home to make sure I arrived safely. We also agreed to meet up the following night for a pint.On Saturday I texted him to see if plans were still going ahead and he replied a few hours later to say they were. So my friends and I went to the bar at 10.30 and had a few drinks. By 12.30 we still couldn't see him there so I lost hope, but there were plenty of other guys showing interest so I just chatted to them. Eventually at 1am, I spotted my perfect guy! He was with a bunch of mates but I don't think he saw me. Anyway, when I went to the smoking area, he followed me out and approached me. I asked him why he hadn't said hi and he said he hadn't seen me but when he did I was chatting to another guy. I replied that I don't normally waste my nights out pining for men so since I didn't think he was coming, I chatted to the other guy. However, I did add that I was happy to see him and he kissed me. We chatted for ages and he was talking about the meal he wanted to cook me and then said he'd love to bring me on a picnic some other day and go for walks etc etc. He said he wanted to introduce me to his friends so I went back inside and he was so smitten with me - he was holding my hand, introducing me to all his friends and was just perfect! His friends told me he was so nervous about seeing me again and was getting ready all day!He invited my friends and I back to his place for some beers so we decided to go and we had another brilliant night. We kissed and danced. He told me a bit about his exes and I told him a little about mine. He wasn't pushing for sex - he was just the perfect gentleman. After we kissed he said that I took his breath away...it was just so romantic! Anyway, at 5am, we left and he said he'd like to see me the next day so I agreed. He said he might have a football match but he'd try and get out of it.So the next day he texted and said he couldn't get out of the match and was really sorry. I texted him back later in the day to say that was OK. We texted a couple of more times before he said he had to get to bed as he had to work the next day. That was Sunday night...today is Wednesday and I haven't heard from him at all! I texted him yesterday to say hi but I got no reply. What did I do wrong? Was it all bull that he was spewing about having dinner, going for picnics, going for walks etc?? I am at a loss...I really don't know what I did wrong!My friends think he's nervous to have me over to his house when it's just him and I; others are telling me that he's scared of the amazing connection we had....but I really don't know. I don't usually have this problem with men...but I just think we did have an amazing connection and it would be a shame to forget about it now!What should I do??
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reader, aishiteru  +, writes (22 April 2011):
 I think he is interested with you, and maybe your friends are right. he might be just scared as well. I believe you are especial to him. just wait a couple of days. he might be planning something for you or he is just preparing himself for something (its a male thing when their confuse).
but one thing is for sure. you caught his eyes.
he likes you(or probably more than that)
if he didn't make a move after a week or so.
Do your girl thingy. You like him too don't you.
Confront him, ask him what he feels about you.
But still, be relaxed or plan it by seducing him first.
well, its not necessary but you can try.
You just cant wait for him to build up his confidence forever.
when you know you've already waited,
MAKE A MOVE.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2011): I think your guy is very in the moment and I also think his friends are telling you what will make you gush because they aren't "cock blocks" and are going to help out their friend. A guy who likes you won't make you wait around in a bar until after midnight while you chat up other guys..he would have met you there and paid for your drinks. I also don't think you are his main interest or he wouldn't be taking you home at the end of the night, unplanned, after he didn't meet anyone else. Ask yourself what he was doing all night until 1 am with his friends while you were waiting at the bar. Ask yourself why he never takes you out and ask yourself why he disappears without explanation. Not good signs.
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reader, natasia +, writes (21 April 2011):
 Sounds a bit like Cinderella : )
I am not usually one for plotting, but I think you need to engineer a meeting with him, because it does sound worth following up, but it also sounds like he has cold feet. If you can trust the friends who told you he spent half a day getting ready to see you, then really it is probably just a case of how much of an effect you have had on him making him feel strangely and uncomfortably vulnerable, so he has just kind of copped out.
You seem to have a lot of informants ; ) ... can't you find out when he is going out, and just turn up? I think you need a 'chance' meeting.
And yes, he sure is into you, by the sound of it. He just needs a bit of nudging ...
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