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writes:About a week ago, me and my boyfriend of almost eleven months, broke up. He gave me the "it's for good" speech when he broke up with me. Yet, on Friday he called me for the first time it happened. He told me he loves me and that he cares so much for me. Yet right now, he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. He wants to give it time. On Saturday, we hung out, shared kisses, and acted like we were together, we even have sex. When we're together, we are so happy and we get along great.I suggested the whole FWB thing with him, but I'm afraid of getting hurt. Is he really in love with me, or is this part of it?
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reader, lola16182  +, writes (27 April 2009):
What he wants is all the good stuff without the commitment and responsibility.
Sorry to be blunt. He very well might still love you, but he doesn't want to grow up and take responsibility. Right now he is thinking wow I still can have sex with her, kiss her and hang out like everything is normal, but I technically don't have a girlfriend. Ever think that maybe he could be doing this with someone else? Because technically it wouldn't be cheating if you guys are broken up..and most guys will play that card.
I think you need to talk to him about things. Tell him you will give him time on his own if that's what he needs. You can hang out as JUST FRIENDS (that means no kissing, no sex, only completely platonic behaviour) but I don't even recommend that because if he wants time alone to figure things out, if you two are still hanging out like normal it isn't really "time alone" then. But be firm about the behaviour, tell him if you can't commit to a relationship then you don't get the good stuff. Hope this helps you! Good luck
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