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writes: A guy that I care about recently told me he was getting married it was only me and him around, he told me his wedding date but when I asked him her name or who she was he didn't tell me. Why is that? Is he really getting married or lying, should I ask him if he's really getting married?
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (5 September 2006):
 I still do not think he is getting married.
I think he hopes to make you think he is so that you will try anything to stop him, maybe declare your undying love for him.
He seems to be on some sort of power trip, playing mind games and trying to make you feel like you are about to lose him. I would call his bluff and wish him all the very best, maybe even ask for an invite to the wedding. He will probably say the marriage is on the moon for a NASA commisioned ceremony or something like that. His responses seem very far fetched. He does seem to like you, but I feel he wants you to be clingy.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (1 September 2006):
 Well to be honest I think he wants to give you the sack if heas interested he wouldn't say he is to marry unless he considered you a slut sorry to say
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2006): Hmm. What did the poem all say?
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (29 August 2006):
 This is really tricky!! A poem,eh? Maybe he is harbouring romantic feelings for you, and is having second thoughts about his impending marriage..perhaps he is trying to jerk a reaction out of you, to see how the land lies.
Any way, though, if he is in a committed relationship, he is not being fair to his 'bride' by convincing her that she is to be the one he wants, if it is a fact that he wants to be with you. Not knowing if it is a lie or not, I cannot say for sure what it is he is after. Perhaps all will become clear when you have your meeting - have some questions ready, and be prepared for a (possible) surprise or two!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2006): I'm the asker of the question. He's getting married in December in another country, and we're due to meet in a couple of weeks time to discuss business on a professional basis. He's younger than me. I do like him and he knows, he even wrote a poem to me which said that he would never forget me that was before he told me he was getting married. Why play head games?
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reader, snowbird +, writes (29 August 2006):
How well do you know him? Does he think you may know her, and pass judgement or dissaprove?
I doubt if it would be that he is trying to make you jealous or get your attention - Getting married , or pretending to, is guaranteed to throw you off the scent, as it were!
I'd leave it, or tell him that you think it really odd that he won't tell you. Ask him 'why the big mystery', but don't let on that you care for him, he sounds a bit odd. He may be a guy who likes to play head games..strange but true!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2006): Just take it as it is; either way he is a no go.
So if you find out he's lying, just roll your eyes-who needs a man who can make decisions out of fear/stupidity?
If he is, congratulate him and just live your life.
He could just feel that her name shouldn't matter to you as he just told you he is off limits to you. He could also be protective of her so why divuldge a name?
Let it go.
Move on.
Good luck.
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reader, shell26 +, writes (29 August 2006):
He's lying thats just a bad way of telling you hes not interested. sorry but his bells wont be ringing anytime soon. men are so stupid
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reader, b3x +, writes (29 August 2006):
 Curious....Do you like him? Or are you just not sure about the fact he is lying to you or not?
Personally I think he is trying to make you jealous too, This 'girl' doesn't even have a name and if your his friend, any freind would tell you right? Or he could just be trying to get you to notice, seems to me he wants to get you attention? xx
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (29 August 2006):
To be honest, I think he is just trying to make you jealous.
When is the wedding date?
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