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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi all,I have a wonderful boyfriend who i have been with for 3 years now and my family and friends adore him as do i.However whats started to annoy me is that everyone (his family and friends and my family)keep telling me how lucky i am to have him.I know this is true and i totally agree but no one has ever said to him that he's lucky to have me! My family or friends have never told him he is lucky to have me.Im not a bad person i've never been drunk,done drugs and i am still a virgin until i get married!Also i have never cheated on him and compare to my friends and people i know they ahve done the dirty on thir partner. I buy him nice things and i am even learning o make his favourite meals!He comes from an upper class family,has a great degree and a good job.Im not doing to bad myself-i never went to uni but i have a good enough job and i have a comfortable lifestyle.Has anyone else been in this position?Or am i just reading to much in to this?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Next time tehy metion something like that to you; smile at them and politely tell; "yes, I know, actually he is the lucky one to have me". That might surprise them and get them to stop.
Try not to take comments like that personal, and don't allow it to influence your attitude towards your boyfriend; have you told him about this? Maybe you should talk to him, he might be able to in his own way put a stop to some of the "praise singing".
Good luck!
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reader, xcharlottex +, writes (30 June 2008):
You shouldnt take it personally...he is lucky to have you, obviously, it just so happens that his family feel so protective of him that they feel the need to remind you you're lucky to have him, but it's not the sort of thing that everyone says so dont think of it personally when your friend and fmily havent said it to him, the thought of saying tha probably hasnt crossed their mind. Besides it's your relationship, dont be so bewildered by other peoples perspective becuase you two are the only ones who know what goes on behind closed doors.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 June 2008):
I think you may be reading a little too much into it.
But at the same time it might not hurt to make a little come back to let people know you are getting sick of it.
Next time a family member / friend says how lucky you are just reply in a slightly sarcastic way, "Yes people are constantly telling me how lucky I am that he's just settled for me, and not found someone better."
That should let them know that you are getting a little hurt by their comments.
Good Luck!! xx
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