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*mjo
writes:I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 19 months (about a month ago) and since then I've met another boy who is really nice and we're now in a relationship together. I still speak to my ex on friendly terms and am arranging to go see him. I was deeply in love with him and I do miss him sometimes, how can I be sure this new relationship isn't just a rebound as I don't want to hurt this guy? Also is it too soon for me to be over my ex already? Most of the time I think I am, how confusing.Any help, ideas or advice is appreciated.Many thanks
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 Yes its a good thing that your not sad but you need to be over someone before you get in to a new relationship because this will just end in someone getting hurt if your not over your ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): ~DEFINITELY A REBOUND~
You're still questioning yourself.
You still talk of how you loved him deeply.
It's only been a month.
Have you been honest with your current boyfriend?
I am in the same situation, only I am not over my ex and while I have a really close friendship with another individual the goal isn't relationship..sure we hug, cuddle, spoon and give pecks but nothing more. I just can't go there. My heart is still with my ex and that's the only one that I will allow to take complete control of my body and being that I'm not with my ex I guess I will just have to be a nun.
I don't know how you are doing it. It's been 4 months for me and I jus can't even think about loving someone else on an intimate level.
I really think you need to step back and reevaluate and especially since you are going to be with your ex soon...DANGEROUS.
Think about what effect this will have on your current boyfriend. Is that fair.
Honesty is best~
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reader, Emjo +, writes (12 November 2010):
Emjo is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for your opinions and sadly he broke up with me, i worded that badly. I apologise. I guess I'll have to see how it works out, i suppose the way I see it, this way I'm not sad about my ex so thats good right?
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (11 November 2010):
Everybody deals with a break up differently there is no specific time frame were you need to be over someone, but you need to make sure that you dont have any feelings for your ex anymore, because as you said you dont want to hurt this new fella, it does seem a little soon to be in a new relationship however am not going to judge that.
Just make sure that the romantic feelings for your ex are gone, ask yourself this...when you two meet up and he went to kiss you would you kiss him back? If the answer is yes then i think either you need to think about your new relationship or else think maybe you and your ex need some longer time apart to get over each other before becoming friends.
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