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writes: Ok is he married....or am I just one of a few?My friend and I have been dating for about 2 years or so..and I had questions of him being married and he clearly said no..I took him at his word and enjoyed teh dinner and time we spent togeather a few times a month..he lives out of state. To be honest at the beginning I took it for granted and just enjoyed the time spent and left it at that. Well I ran into some troubles after a surgery and he helped me out alot financially which is neither here nor there..I never had they intention of caring like I do now for the very reason of knowing the age difference and the quesions that I had looming that I never quite dealt with..and I do bring the questions up a bit more than I used to and he avoids them like the plague..well now I am in a bind..I dont want to grow anymore attached and I know that I do need to let it go in order fot that not to happen and I am finding myself preoccupied by him...and I just cant get comfortable with him now..things that really should of progressed by now have not..and well its bothering me..I try to ignore it but it is there..so should I just accept it and distance myself a bit or just accept it for what it is..its like I know they answere but I just dont want to do it and I know eventually I may have to just stop it or cool it down alot..jsut to protect myself... Reply to this Question
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reader, ErinPatterson +, writes (14 June 2009):
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I give up on it..I am letting things go the way they are and keeping my options open..putting the strict friendship line there because well I know I will get hurt because we dont want the same things it seems..I guesse no words need to be said..just the way it is. so..as much as it is upsetting me..I figure well it will hurt more if i keep waiting for answeres I wont get..and you know it never started out this way..in fact in teh begining..I really couldnt care less..and took him at his word..which i still do but have my doubts..maybe I am just an untrusting woman..lol..
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Seems like asking and trying to talk about it with him has only resulted in him changing the subject, eh? If you don't trust someone then the words that they say aren't going to mean much. I'd do a background check if I were you. If you don't trust him, then why are you with him? If you can't talk to him, what's the point of being with him? He could be dangling lots of women but that's not usually something someone will tell you outright. Communication is really only effective if you are dealing with an honest person.
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