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*rissi
writes:my ex and i have been off and on for 3 years.. and ive known him since i was 7.. i just recently went to his place and he admitted he was messing round with this girl but shes nothing to him- just a hit and quit type of thing.. and hes told my friend that he still has feelings for me and loves me, and feels he lost his girl... i honestly dont know what to think Reply to this Question
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (15 October 2007):
He is not totally commmited to you. Stay away from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): I think you have a immature boy on your hands, you two have become comfortable, but just because you can depend on each other does not mean that he wants the same thing that you do....he wants his cake and eat it too. If you can't handle a casual relationship with him, then I would say give him what he wants and dump him.
To accept and forgive his cheating based on him telling you she was a hit and quit, is demeaning to everyone, and most of all you, why should you be expected to accept this behavior from him? This gives him all the power. You need to set some boundaries and ask for what you want and what you expect out of him....and it sounds to me like he just wants to play around and be single....Time to move on, why would you want to limit yourself to this relationship that is on and off all of the time....try being single and getting to know yourself for awhile.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (15 October 2007):
 hi krissi
I think if you have wasted three years with this guy and he is still messing about with other girls, then i am afraid you are wasting your time and life with him, when people admit to messing around and say they mean nothing to them,it is really a hint to you, that he cares for no-one but his self, you would be better finding a partner who is not as selfish, who care for you and does not boast about other girls who he plays with like a child with a toy, you must be more mature than he is and i would stay away from this person, now he is your ex it should stay that way, find some one else, he is trying to play mind games with you so that you will leave him and not come back, find your self a great person with a personality who is kind,loving and thinks the world of you, then you will find true love and happiness after all that is what we are all looking for,not some who is constantly hurting your feelings, go for it girl.
good luck
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