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Is he interested in me or not?

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Question - (27 March 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 31 March 2009)
A female Ireland age 30-35, *carlettxx writes:

I've been seeing my ex again for around six weeks. We broke up around 3 years ago because he had to train for two years for his job and it would be hard to keep in contact. Then I decided to contact him in September of last year on the net. We e-mailed on and off and then we ended up working in the same place out of pure coincidence. That kicked off something between us again and after a while we began texting and I asked him out... Just a bit of background info :)

My problem is he used to text me a fair bit through the day, not loads but enough to know that he does like me. Now though I only get one text a day and he leaves hours and hours to reply to my text, like 7 hours and that's not even when he's in work. We only see eachother I'd say once every two weeks as well... We're only seeing each other but I'm kinda confused as to what's happening here...

Like if he doesn't text me I won't bombard him with texts, I don't text him until he gets back to me and he will most likely text first but when I reply he'll again take hours to text back. Then when we're out together he seems really interested and attentive and will talk about future dates but he never ever suggests a date after... I have to do everything. I suggest when we go out, where we'll go, what time etc... he never ever asks me. I'm very confused...

So sometimes he makes me think he's not interested and sometimes he makes me think he is... I just need other people's interpretations of this situation :) Thanks :)

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (31 March 2009):

I think you need to test this. He could be happy and just taking it really casually. He could be letting you take the lead so you don't feel rushed. He could not be that bothered about you. He could just assume that since you have been out in the past he doesn't have to do all that romantic stuff this time.

Just tell him that he should let you know when he wants to see you again and stop texting him.

If he doesn't make any effort after a week then tell him that you can see he's not as into this as you so you are backing out.

He'll either chase you or let you go and then you will have your answer.

Good Luck!! xx

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