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writes:well there is this guy that i live with and we have fooled around a few times but it seems to only happen when we are high on something and in that state he likes to be the bottom but then when we are sober he gets mad at me when he feels that i treat him like a fifth wheel i am so confused as he says he loves me and i love him but it is almost like he is hiding something and has these girls that are friends that he has had sex with and they told me that the whole time he kept saying i wish that Neil (me) was there now what is up with this does he want a relationship he has been hurt so much by women in the past and i won't cheat on him and he won't on me but i am confused here what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, nimitz6868 +, writes (25 March 2008):
nimitz6868 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Tisha i can't believe the other night i even said this isn't a date and then he said well your still paying for it so i guess i should just come out and say OK it is a date what do you think is that being to bold and not playing hard to get or what.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 March 2008):
 I guess it all depends on what the rules are! Why do you need rules to ask him on a date?
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reader, nimitz6868 +, writes (25 March 2008):
nimitz6868 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTisha I live in Bremerton Washington state and maybe i could take him to applebease but then again outback would be nice and should i tell him that ok it is a date but it will have some rules do u think the rules thing is a good idea.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 March 2008):
The fifth wheel. Hmmm, maybe he thinks that you ignore him when you're all in a group together? Or that he feels unneccessary to you somehow? Why not ask him what he means when he says it, just ask him quietly and gently.
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reader, nimitz6868 +, writes (25 March 2008):
nimitz6868 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks Tisha i think i know what to do but the one thing i keep hearing from this person is that he feels that some times i make him feel like he is a fifth wheel what does that mean.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 March 2008):
You two need to have a long calm conversation when you're not 'high on something' and quietly share your feelings about each other. Your question is a little hard to understand, so maybe you could think about what you'd like to say in a way that's not confusing.
You're gay, correct? And he has relationships with women, but has had sex under the influence with you, did I read that correctly? So he's either bi or reluctantly gay, maybe?
The talk needs to happen when you're both sober, and don't push too hard to get him to commit to you. He sounds confused and may need support in working out his true feelings and sexuality.
All the best to you.
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reader, nimitz6868 +, writes (25 March 2008):
nimitz6868 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionone thing i forgot is that this person is 32 and i am 38 and out birthdays are in the same month as well to add that to the question i asked.
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