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writes: An older guy that I me through work has made statements like " we can have any relationship we want " and " I'm 44...you're 34 .....we are on the same wavelength ..". Is he purely interested , or only flirting? Don't want to read the signals wrong!
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reader, hurtandbitter  +, writes (12 September 2008):
He's definitely flirting. At this point he's testing you by doing light harmless flirts to see how you react, mostly not expecting much back and to see if you're interested in him or not. As a guy I've done this before and so have my guy friends it is either a.)because we were both bored but got along together well b.)because I was very interested in her c.)I was just sexually and physically attracted to her. At this point it's only a harmless flirt showing nothing more than interest. Don't blow him off completely. Test him as well. If you want a serious relationship with him hint it, make sure he knows that you're interested but not in just a one-night stand. He will either back off completely or realize it. If he is bold enough and wants to have a serious relationship with you he will ask you out. If you want to have a no strings attached sexual relationship with return the flirts back even stronger.Also does he do this with other women as well, or just you? Sorry but if he does then he's probably just immaturely throwing the nets for a possible bangable catch.
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (4 October 2005):
Sorry, but he sounds a loser!
I wouldnt disagree with pops and xixi, however, i think the Doctor has hit the nail on the head, he is just after sex.
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reader, Dr Vincenzo +, writes (4 October 2005):
I'm sorry but pops and xixi are both wrong. This guy wants to have sex with you and nothing more. The fact is he isnt confident enough to seduce you.
I can guarantee that if you approached him and said " look I just want to have a no strings sexual relationship" he would agree straight away. This is what he means by " you are 34 , I am 44 , we are on the same wave length". He means " look we are both a bit older, been hurt in relationships and dont want the crap, just the sex, so lets go for it".
If thats what you want, then all for you. But if you want a guy who gives a damn about you and may be a potential partner then steer clear before you become another discarded and disgruntled female who becomes the subject of office gossip.
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reader, pops +, writes (4 October 2005):
Probably both. You should ask him. What do you know about him? Have you talked to other co-workers to find out if he is married, divorced, widowed, etc? Flirting is often done to put women at ease in the company of men,and to compliment them, without embarrassing them.
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reader, xixi +, writes (4 October 2005):
It definitely sounds like he's just flirting with you. Older men tend to playfully flirt with younger women, not expecting anything to happen. If a man is bold enough to flirt with you like that, then he should be bold enough to actually ask you out on a date.
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