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writes:I'd like some thoughts on this situation. I've been seeing a guy for about 3 weeks and things are going well. We can spend hours together, talk on and on, and just have a great time. He's been really slow to make a move on me, kiss me etc but as I've given him the 'green light' so to speak, he's relaxed a bit now.The other night we went out and then went back to his to watch a movie. We ended up on his bed and started making out. He's never touched me inappropriately and he didn't do anything that night either. At one point he said something to the effect of he wonders what would be considered 'crossing the line' that night. He couldn't explain to me what he meant but I knew he was asking how far we could go. I told him that I can't give him a list of what's appropriate and what's not but that I will stop him if I'm uncomfortable. He then told me that he'd rather not go to a point where I'd have to stop him. We didn't end up doing more than making out that night and things are fine between us. He's asked to see me again so I don't think he's only after one thing.What I want to know is whether this sounds like a good guy to you, you know long-term potential kind of thing? I've dealt with so many players before that I sometimes find it hard to tell when a guy is being genuine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the opinions. I agree with all of you, give it time and go slow. :)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 September 2009):
He does sound like a good guy. But players are great actors. Why don't you just take it nice and slow. Make him work a bit for you. See where it leads.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): He sounds like a good guy. There's no way to know how long this will last until you've spend more time together, but for now you should be happy you found a guy that wants you but is controlling himselfand building a relationship before ripping off your clothes.
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reader, AngellicaWaters  +, writes (27 September 2009):
 It is hard to tell if a man is genuine so soon. When you are initially with a man, you have to make him work for physical interactions with you. Making out on his bed so soon may make things too easy for him. A little making out standing up when saying goodnight on a date would be just fine though.To find out if a man is really genuine and interested in you is a matter of finding out how much time and effort they will invest in getting to really know you before you decide to give them physical rewards. You should have an established relationship commitment before you do have sex with him if you are trying to build a long-term love relationship. Relationships should be based upon compatibility and in 3 weeks you cannot really know how compatible you are both are until you have more relaxed time together when you are both not on your best "we are new to each other" behavior. For now it would be good to just keep getting to know one another and stay out of bed or avoid making out while lying down (things could progress too much from that point). If he invests the time and energy to really get to know you he will prove himself to you and his motives will easily become evident.I hope that you find much relationship success and happiness.-Angellica
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reader, landingsight +, writes (27 September 2009):
It seems like this guy is going to great lengths to keep you comfortable and to respect any boundaries you have, which is a wonderful sign. There's not a lot of information here, but he doesn't sound like a player from what you've given, especially since he's been so slow to move on you.
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