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writes:I am in a bit of a strange situation and need to know if there is anything I can do to straighten it out. My very good friend and I were dating for almost a year. Earlier this year he broke up with me stating that he cared for me but he wasn't "dancing for joy and ecstatic to be with me like he felt he should be" and that he didn't want to settle for less than that euphoria feeling. It seemed to me that everything had been going right. We are nearly perfect together, nothing has ever gone wrong, we have never fought or complained and everything has been happy. We have gotten back together now and I have talked to him about what makes this time different from the last time.I really love him and would hate to loose him twice, and though I know there is no way to force someone in to euphoria what can I do to let him know that that feeling isn't necessary for love...or is it...
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 I don't think that euphoria (butterflies) is necessary for love, but personally I don't think you'll be able to change him from feeling this way no matter what you do- not in the long term anyways...
He could have unrealistic, romanticized expectations of love, but more likely in my opinion- this niggling little feeling of his is going to resurface and its just going to eventually result in another break up.
Hopefully I'm wrong though :)
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