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writes:Please help feel like im going crazyMet my bf over a year ago, he has been divorced from his ex wife for 7 years, at the time she was coming round to his flat daiy, cleaning and occasionally cooking meals nd bringing them over and before my first visit she redecorated his kitchen, at this time our relationship was new and although i thought it odd i did not feel threatend by her, since then my feelings for him have grown stronger but her behavior has caused me to have concerns. I had to make him aware that there were no bounderies in place and that there relationship was unusual,he said that he paid her for these things as she was out of work at the time. She then started dating his best friend behind his back at first and when he found out, by cathing them together he attacked his best friend which he did tell me about and imediately i wondered why he reacted like this, he said that he felt betrayed by his friend, "not sure how to deal with this one". I had a massive row with him over this and he made some changes by not letting her clean his flat and cook for him or decorate anymore. She used to text him alot when we were together as they do have a 14 year old son, i tried to be understanding but the conversations were not always about him, she always knew what we were doing and she still does, the first time i met her she said that he was one of her best friends and she relied on him as a friend and although they ve had many rows they always managed to make up. My problem is that i live 300 miles fro him and im not there to see how they interact on a daily basisthe latest problem has come about since my bf,s daughter from a previous relationship has come to live with him,shes 19 and can do and see more or less who she pleases , his ex has already got her claws in by offering to look after her cats and spends lots of time with her , something i cant do being so far away, im so unhappy i love my boyfreind and he loves me but i cant deal with her behavior especially now shes single again, dont know what to do this situation is making me ill, my bf plans to move to where i live when his son is 16 but i dont think i can handle 2 years of this.
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