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writes:I dont understand people sometimes they say they wont go out with someone because they see them as a close friend. But people usually say to have a good relationship friendship should be there. I dont understand why being a close friend is a turn off. People say they don't want to go out with complete strangers i understand that but i dont see whats wrong with close friends. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): it really bugs me when after you tell someone how you feel they view the intentions of your actions differently let him know that your intentions as a friend haven't changed your still a friend you were just wondering if there could be more and since he said no you will eventually move on i don't mean to say moving on will be easy but it can be done
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reader, Markingbad +, writes (27 October 2009):
 Havent you heard of the rule. "You dont f*** your friends". I lost my rule book. But i think most women draw a clear line between guys they like as friends and the type of guys they want to date. They are not even similar. Havent you ever wondered why so many women love the company of gay men ? Well they are friends to but unlike you they are genuine.
Because its very creepy of you to think your such a good friend to them when really you have your own agenda. You are only out for what you can get. But you will get what you deserve.
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reader, crispap  +, writes (27 October 2009):
That's just a nice way of saying I like you a lot as a person and friend but I'm not attracted to you enough for something more. He "sees" you as a friend, not a lover. What's not to understand? It is possible for friends to become great lovers but there has to be a mutual attraction and shared passion.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 October 2009):
He values you as a friend, but not as a lover. That's because though he thinks you're pretty, he doesn't fancy you enough for you to be a girlfriend. He's at least been honest, and he's not using you. Which is great. You need time to get over him, so make sure that you're socializing with other people and having fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes my ex its complicated. We went out after a month of getting to know each other didn't work out we're close friends now. I still like him, he says he's attracted to me etc but only sees me as a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): Is there a guy you like?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): If you become very close freinds with someone, eventually they become like a brother or sister to you, where the thought of being involved romantically with them is off- putting. Going to a romantic relationship from this may seem far too strange.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 October 2009):
A close friend tends to be someone that you rely on for all the support of a partner, but without the complications of sex, love, huge arguments and such. A close friend is the shoulder to lean on when it's going wrong with a partner. Imagine going out with a close friend, and it going wrong. You've then lost your partner and best friend. Sometimes we look at a close friend as nothing but a close friend, and simply don't fancy them. I have a close female friend, and just don't fancy her at all. There are a lot of reasons, but it really comes down to people are very scared that if it goes wrong, they will lose the friendship and the love of their life. This is wby when you fancy someone, though you should take time to get to know them, you need to make sure that you let them know you like them romantically fairly early on so you don't slip into the 'friends' zone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): Isn't it obvious?, they are afraid that if they break up with them, they won't be as close anymore.
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