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writes: is 14 too young to go to 3rd base ...? i have bin with my bf who is 2 years older than me for 5 months now and love and adore him very much!..i have been to 3rd with him...feeling confident and ready. He has never presured me and he respects me completly! he would never dream of taking advantage or anything like that! he dnt drink, dnt smoke, is helpful...dus generally a great, nice guy! n has proved to me that not all guys are like my past bf's who only had their minds on 1 thing! i am very comfortable, confident and ready for 3rd. but i saw a question posted on here about another 14 yr old girl who had gone quite far and was bein told that she was just too young! i am not ready for sex! my bf knows this. people tell u to wait until you are completly ready and know that your bf loves you and only do things if you are sure that you have the right person to do things with!..i know deep down that i have found that...but does all that even mater if my age..isnt how other people would like it to be?! have i made a mistake?..i dont see it as a mistake but do you?....any advise on this would be very helpful, thanks. XxXxXxX
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reader, jack23 +, writes (10 October 2006):
 Like everyone will say you should concentrate on school, but at the same time anyone who has fallen for someone else (everyone) can understand that you will find it difficult not to keep running questions through your head.
Ultimately only you can decide when the time is right, if you have to ask yourself if you are ready then chances are you are not. Remember you only get one first time, so make sure you are completly comfortable with any given situation.
If you have been with your boyfriend for two years then it would appear he is not with you to see how far he can get. Plus if he is the gentleman you believe he is, then he will wait for you.
Hope this helps :)
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reader, sleepysly +, writes (10 October 2006):
 at your age you should be more concerned about your education than boys .boys come with time how would you feel about having a baby? this is what it will lead to,are you even sure hes the one for you and he feels the same? enjoy your youth while you can it passes by so quickly
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (9 October 2006):
 I was seduced by my b/f when I was 14, and really believed he loved me. He took my virginity, but shortly after, I found out he also did it to another girl.
I was devastated, as he had asked me to marry him, and I (thought) I loved him so much.
But at that age there is nothing else to compare it with, so we really do not know!
I just wish I could have turned back the clock and done things differently, as sex at a young age is SO over-rated! All that fumbling - AARRGH!!
Wish I had paid more attention to my schoolwork...you will never have those precious years back, and will regret losing that sweet innocence
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2006): It all depends on many thing, and perhaps the most important is how does this fit with who you are. Regardless of advice others give or offer, if you are bothered by what you are doing, then likely you have gone too far.
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reader, ButterflyonFire +, writes (9 October 2006):
 Everybody has their own little time clock I think in them. You will know if your ready or not. If you want to go to third base and no more then explain to your boyfriend that, that is as far as you will go and no more.
Just go to do it and say "I want to do this, but I don't want to have sex untill I am ready."
He should be satisfied with 3rd base, hell he should be satisfied with hugs if he loves you, but you know what I mean.
I don't think your too young because I know how mature alot of 14 year olds are now adays.. but I don't want you to be pressured into anything you don't want to do. Be safe and if you need to talk send me a message and I'll give you my addy's.
I don't like giving them out on here cause all the weirdo's. =P
xoxo, Jamie
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reader, Beckah  +, writes (9 October 2006):
 I might sound thick but i do need to clarify what 3rd base is?
However, i'm pleased to see that a young girl is thinking through her actions before she takes them. Need i remind you that you are 14, and it wasn't long ago i was that age too, you're turning into a woman with all ups and downs and it's not easy, it's confusing. I hope this boyfriend of yours is everything you set him out to be, but that is no invitation to start giving out the gold medals. Any boy, friend or more should treat you with the respect and honour that a young lady deserves such as yourself. Don't be led into doing something that you are not ready for, and believe-you-me we've all been there. What you need to remember is that you are 14- in comparison with the rest of your life, you're just a baby. Not to sound sarcastic, if i was your age i would be mouthing off about what i'd just said...but as i look back in hindsight i can see where i faulted and steer others away. I realise everybody has to make their own mistakes in life to learn, but this isn't a mistake that can be resolved, once you have done the deed, it's done...and thats the end of that. Nobody can tell you that you have made a mistake, nobody can tell you what and what not to do. The idea is that you trust your own judgement, and talk to people who listen and help you. My advice; Don't rush, there is plenty of time for all that hanky panky.
I hope i've helped.
xxx
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