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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, This is my first relationship. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now, except she technically isn't allowed to date due to her fathers strict rule. Because of her father, we haven't been able to see each other often, but when there are opportunities, it almost seems as if she doesn't want to hang out. As if I was a burden to her. Several times we had planned to hang out, but her then cancelling it because she had family events, or she simply didn't want to leave her house. At the end of the day she somehow always ends up going to her friends house.I believe I have only seen her around 13 days out of our soon to be 3 months. Asides from me never seeing her she dismisses my feelings when I try and tell her if something is bothering her. She would talk about how much she loves a famous person, and I would express my jealousy, she simply dismisses it because it will never happen. What should I do? Am I simply over reacting over nothing? Or is this what dating is supposed to be, cause i don't feel happy.
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reader, Vanessa_Twinkle  +, writes (21 August 2011):
Hey,
well your obviously not meant to be unhappy during dating, its meant to be the opposite, if your unhappy its obvious something isnt right there,and it seems that its her lack of affection and attention. You should talk to her and tell her she either expresses her feelings for you and tries to spend time together or it isnt going to work, her dad might be strict but it doesnt seem that thats where the problem is.
She might not be ready for a relationship.
Good luck, and if your not happy with this girl after your talk look for another one who can make you truly happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): Your relationship right now is not a serious relationship, and definately not what a real relationship should feel like. Relationships are supposed to feel good and make you a better person, but they also require the participation and work from both sides, and this girl doesn't seem to be serious enough about you to put forth that effort, and maybe it is because of her father's rule. If you really want to date her, then wait until she is old enough to date, and then you don't have to worry about keeping it a secret or sneaking around, but if you don't think she is the one, let her go and find someone who is actually worth your heart and time, and trust me, you'll find one. Find someone who can date, and is willing to put in the heart and effort to make your relationship the best it can be. What you're experiencing now is not what real dating is made of. Relationships are supposed to make you happy, not confused and alone.
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