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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm massively infatuated with a guy I recently met. Oh yes let me mention that I'm in a relationship with a guy I have been with for 4 years, which isn't going great at the moment. This guy however was just gorgeous, the exchange student at my college and....German. So inevitably he had to go back to Germany. I thought I would get over it, I really did. Things are getting worse, I check his Facebook every day. His photo is my background on my PC. I'm going mental because he's not here with me but far away in Germany.I almost feel like I don't want to stop this feeling because I enjoy it too much but it hurts because he's not around me anymore. How do I solve this problem of mine? How can I reduce the infatuation? Oh and what do you make of my problem does it sound normal?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 June 2010):
 Does your boyfriend know? His picture as your background, I think it would be best if you took that down and didn't make it so obvious. Especially if you want to kill these feelings, feeding yourself little "treats" like that of him, and constantly reminding yourself of him, wont help a bit. Of course you are not over him with the way you worship him.
So, how does he feel about you? You don't mention any e-mails or messages or anything. Is this totally one sided?
I don't know if I can call this normal or not, but if you want to continue being with your boyfriend you have to stop obsessing over this other guy. So make up your mind, continue to obsess over a person who doesn't return your feelings, or work on your relationship? If you choose to work on the relationship, delete this guy from your facebook, take down all his pictures and delete ALL pictures of him. Out of sight, out of mind.
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