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writes:hello im allen 33 year old male from west virginia im unemployed and am living with my parents for last year my thing is i have always viewed porn and stuff. im a virgin but for last 10 to 11 months i have secretly lust for my mom from looking up fantasy incest porn to smelling her panties to peeping on her while i masterbate sometimes up to 3 or more times a night i just cant stop thinking of her i watch her all time from bending over cleaning house to her doing yard work i have went as far to make hole in my wall so can watch her in bathroom is this normal or whats wrong with me just need to talk to someone very confused thanks allen
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 Your condition is called Oedipus Complex, as explained by Freud (psychologist).
In addition to you increasing time to do things that will occupy your mind with positive thoughts (e.g. looking for a job, working as volunteers in shelters, etc), please read up on the following:
Oedipus complex http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/oedipus%20complex
http://www.encyclopedia.com/topic/Oedipus_complex.aspx
http://everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=127033
Sigmund Freud's works - The Oedipus complex http://www.age-of-the-sage.org/psychology/freuds_works.html
Freud's Psychosexual Stages of Development http://www.victorianweb.org/science/freud/develop.html
NEW IDEAS ABOUT THE OEDIPUS COMPLEX http://www.human-nature.com/human/chap5.html
Essays about story oedipus complex http://www.megaessays.com/essay_search/story_oedipus_complex.html
If you wanted answers to your "condition", you need to go to a therapist/psychoanalyst.
Good luck, and hope you will better soon
Cat
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah i know its wrong to think of her in this way but just cant help myself i watched her last night taking shower and she was playing with her self just little bit it was hot i know her and dad dont have sex but i would love to be help her out i need to do something though im going insane i have quit with the porn stuff but still get horny around her
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the replies i do look for work i make few calls each week looking for job no one hiring but i keep tring as for porn i only look it up about 2 times week and as for gardening not good idea she bent over whle time me try plant something her butt in my face so not good thing we dont have any close neighbours so its just us we watch lot movies play video games or listen to music and dance i know im obseesed but even if i dont look at porn i still get erection just seeing her thanks to all that have helped i feel weird teeling everyone about this but think need talk about it
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (15 April 2009):
 None of this is normal. There is a huge difference between love and respect for a family member (which is crucial) and a strange fantasy or whatever you want to define all this as!
We all go through hard times, so perhaps until you get another job, occupy your mind with something more productive. Perhaps help your Mum outside in the garden and get the garden looking good, paint the fence, you name it there are so many more worthwhile things to be doing if you have time on your hands. Read a good book, watch a documentary, a comedy, anything but strange porn which isn't an everyday view of sex.
There is no way your Mum can know about your feelings, because she would be so angry (that's an understatement).
I am not sure about your situation but many people find looking for a job is a job in itself, filling in forms, interviews, job centre... Otherwise do some volunteering in the interim, anything to get you out of the house, a focus.
Many people live at home again for various reasons for some time and do not get these bizarre fantasies, perhaps that's because their mind and time is occupied with college/work/everyday things.
I am not sure how long you have not been in work for, but this is bound to impact on your confidence. I am sure better times will be ahead.
Fiona.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): I can guarentee you that your mother does not share in your fantasies! These are porn driven, stop viewing that shit, it is rotting your brain.
Get a job, move out of your parents house and a girlfriend will soon follow...that is if you are persuing the right girl and not one driven by your porn fueled fantasies, those girls are looking for a man with money.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): get out of the house dude! meet some randoms and just go crazyyyyyyyyy
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Not normal,
There has got to be another way. Do not try to justify this by pointing to job and other girls etcetera, Be a man, stand on your own two feet and get ur ass out of your parents house, would you want your son living with you when he is 30 and perving on your wife?
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (15 April 2009):
 Your behaviour is absolutely not normal and if this goes any further it will become illegal. You need to stop this now - this is damaging to your mind. The only reason you fantasise about your mum in this way is because she is the only woman in your life that has always been there for you, so you see her as this amazing woman who is perfect in every way. That part of it is normal, but as soon as these feelings turn sexual then you have a problem.
I suggest you get a job so you can start earning some money and gain some independence in your life. You rely on your mum for everything so it is not hard to see why you are starting to rely on her for sexual gratification too. Once you have a job and some money, you can start going out more with friends away from your family. You will make friends at work and possibly meet women there too - getting a job will be a great thing for you to do I promise.
Think of how your mum would feel if she knew about this behaviour - she would be so disgusted with you. You have to really try to control this now - make an effort to stop. Stop looking at the porn - this is just putting ideas into your head. Porn is not reality - it is just a visual sexual fantasy. No relationships in real life are like what you see in porn therefore you should not be basing your life around what you see in a porn video.
So my advice to you; get a job, make some new friends, get out of the family home more and build your own life. Save your money so you can rent somewhere to live on your own - you are in your 30's so you need to be independent from your family. No woman will be attracted to you if you still live at home with mum!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): then why don't you get yourself a job?
get some money.
earn a few bob.
even if you work in a supermarket you'll be socializing with people there and earning some money to go out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthats the thing tried get girl friends but always turn me down haven't dated in few yrs dont have money to go out dont know anyone in this town just hang around family just go do what ever there doing going shoping or out eat but am at home 24/7
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): nooooo way man! this is not normal!!! she's your mother!!!!!you really need to get out more you watch porn and probably see this weird things going on and think it's normal but it's not it's totally different!! you sooo need to get a woman in your life you've resorted to getting jolly of your mum!!!!you need to meet some people and get jolly over girls not your mother!!maybe you like the idea of an older woman or maybe because your mum is always there for you.
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