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writes: I don't know what is wrong with me sexually.I'm in my forties, and I totally lost my sexual desire.I went to the doctor and evrything looks fine. Heart, hormons,ok...But I don't have a normal erection few years ago. Or sexual desire. My erections just going down in sec, so I can never satisfy my wife.My wife is really frustrated ,she thinks I don't want her.I went to psychologist too, but I still don't get it what is wrong.At night I get erctions, in my sleep , so my penis function seems to be ok.What could be worng, I don't what else to think. Oh and I do love my wife, so I don't think its that.. If anybody would help me out here ,it would be great...
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reader, highsteplikewalter  +, writes (22 May 2009):
I am in my forties and although I havn't had a an episode where I did not perform well with my wife, the problem is I only get the feeling about once every couple of months. I just don't get that "tingling sensation" when the subject of sex comes up as it was in my 20's and 30's. I am stessed most times raising four teenagers and I worry about the bills alot. I believe these things had desensitized me in that respect. I solved the problem by engaging in things I really enjoyed during my 20's and 30's. These activities included sports and anything that involved competition. Mostly these competitions were with my teenage boys since they refer to me as an "old man" so that stimilated me enough to want to beat them at everything and that in turn stimilated my overall well-being. Something that was missing chemical wise came back thus making me desire to engage in activities with my wife more often. So If anyone can explain to me what occured from a medical aspect it would very appreciated. I hope you can examine your life and determine when your interest in sex was lost because this is one of our simple pleasures in life as we grow old. I guess for many of us we thought we needed it when we were young but it gradually takes a back seat as we age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): Thanks for your advice.But the problem is ,that without sexual desire this pills won't work, so I have a real problem to get aroused, and than no erections.. So,that is why I'm in big trouble. What can I do with that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): Well, a guy on this site has your problem, also has erections at night. He says it has to do with 'mind stress'. Are you uptight all the time? You and your wife need a different approach. Try massages with no sex. Do you take vacations or do things to relax yourself?
This world we live in is very stressful, but you need make time for you to unwind.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 March 2009):
 Go back to the doctor and get a prescription for Cialis or Viagra, either one will help sustain your erections. I'd give it a try, what have you got to lose?
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