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writes:okay, it's all common and stuff, but like. i think i am in love with my geography teacher. there's an age gap of 15 years, but i really don't care.he always looks at me in lessons, and everytime he says my name he smiles and says it in such an upbeat tone.he never tells me off for anything, even though i talk in lessons, and wear make-up and 'incorrect uniform'.he always asks me to help him out, and flips through my book to see where we are, and when he's telling others off, he looks me in the eyes.he doesn't give me a detention or anything.and one night, he gave me a lift halfway home, and i was so so so happy.i've really felt for him since this summer, june or july.i'm in love with him, and yeah, people think it's just a crush, but it's not, i am in love with that man. it's so unfair and he's getting married and OMG, it's unreal how much i feel for him. like last night, i was crying until about midnight, and some nights i get no sleep because i just want him to be laying next to me, and holding me, and, well, telling me everything's okay. and i just want him to be mine, because, well, i'm already his, because i think that all in all, i've given my heart away to him. and well, i want him to want me, to be in love with me, so much more than anything. and i want him to just, well, tell me everything about him, and tell me he's loved me ever since we met, and that, he's just non-stop thinking about me. basically, i'm depressed, because i want him to just be there, and well, yeah. he makes me lugh, smile, and whatnot, and everything he says to me is like a £billiongazillionmilliontrillion note, but, well, even better. i want to tell him, and have him tell me back that he loves me, and just everything i feel for him. maybe, if my heart stopped beating it woudn't hurt this much. thing is, what would i know abouyt my heart anymore, seeing as he has it all tangled up in his soul, but he doesn't know it. i'm always thinking of him, and i'm not concentrating on school work or family issues, or friends, just HIM, and tbh, it's tearing me apart and ruining me. i have to force myself to do my homework, and when i do do it it's CRAP, and stuff. i watch sad films. listen to sad music, and i have to tell myself to do what i'm told. i can't eat, i can't sleep, can't do anything like i used to. i draw once every 2 weeks now, whereas i used to draw everyday. i read jane eyre one page a month, and i've lost interest in it's familiar and lovely story line because i'm descovering that my own storyline is far more intricate and horrible, and it amazes me how much my feelings for him are destroying my personal life. in the eyes of love, even the ugliest person is beatiful. what a quote. he's not really that good-looking, but to me, he's extraordinarily fantastic and beautiful. he amazes me with everything he says, even if i already know it.
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reader, 2sugars. +, writes (27 March 2009):
2sugars. is verified as being by the original poster of the question Okay, well, a quick situation update:
you guys helped me be happier.
and i was stupid and told him how i felt for him.
but, he said that he did have slight feelings for me, and that we should forget about it.
but thans alot guyss xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): I know this is gonna sound really clichic (if thats a word) but it does get better. You will get over him. When you get over him is up to what you do. You've gotta try and start digging outta the painful hole that you've buried yourself in. This is gonna hurt but, he does not love you. If he is getting married, isn't this enough proof? The way he looks at you in lessons is the way he looks at everyone in lessons. He doesn't pick you out because hes just so insanely in love with you. At teacher training, your told to smile at students. I know you've probably gone over this a thousand times in your head, but your only noticing this stuff because your not concentrating on anything else. Your constantly thinking about whether hes looking at you or not.I know you just wanna be the one he loves and the one he's gonna get married to. But your not going to marry him. But one day, you will marry someone that you love and he'll make you feel really special.I'm not just making this stuff up coz that would just be pointless and bordering hypocritical. I've gone through exactly the same. One day you'll be forced to get over him i.e. when you leave the school. Try and focus your attentions onto someone else. No I don't really care about age difference either its just something that has come to be socially unacceptable. But the best way to get over someone you really love is to try and love someone else.No one can wave a magic wand and just snap you outta this. This is sumin that takes a hell of a lot of time but the quicker you force yourself to get over him the quicker you can feel a lil happier again. (And this isn't going to be easy either).
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): Hi Sugar, you just wanted to get your feelings out. That's understandable. It's a good idea to keep a journal and write down the way you are feeling. Guaranteed sooner or later, your feelings will change. Then you'll read the journal again, and wonder, why did I think that was love. Please continue your drawing, don't give that up.. You can even draw pictures of your teacher. Write in your journal. Your in love, he's gonna get married. Yes it's sad and it hurts. But when we have feelings, we we get sad, or emotional, it's best to use these feelings and channel them and do something positive with them. The best songs, the best art, the best stories are written by people who are unhappy, who have been rejected in love or has loss someone who has died. Don't give up the drawing or writing or reading, use your energy to do something positive and creative just like the rest of the great artist do. You feel love, so then it's love.. but we can't always be with the one we love.
Jane Eyre, Jane was in Love, so was Mr Rochester the hero of the book. See what happened when they fell in love. At least two people got very, very hurt. Look at his wife, she was in love but wasn't it terrible what she did because of love. Jane was patient, but even Jane suffered, and when she got him, well he wasn't the man that she thought he was. Look what he did to his first wife.
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reader, Howsyou? +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Hey, I felt the same bout my History teacher (n guess wa? he used 2 teach geography, scary huh?) anyway, i only spoke to him when needed and forced myself not to think of him. I also Started to "hunt" for some1 my age 2 distract me. Ok, so i dont have a boyfriend n didnt intend 2 get 1 but I got my mind off him. Try lookin at other men, celebs perhaps 2 take ur mind off him.But now, if ever im stuck i listen 2 Alice Cooper lol. But i read 2 much into those lyrics :/ nyway, just focus urself on sum1 ur age or a celeb, some1 other than ur teacher. Things WILL get better. The same happened wiv me n my History teacher (sept i never had the lift, But I would always see his car drive past, i even knew his number plate [but i knew half the other teachers aswell, i dont know y but i have a habit of trying 2 remember numberplates, i watch 2 much CSI lol]) Anyway, yeh, Mail me if u need 2 vent out and just talk bout it, i will always listen (or read as the case is)But hunny, dont let him ruin ur life. Mail me and we can talk more bout our cases yh? I got over mine and Im sure we can work over urs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): I was like you and had a major crush on my teacher, he too was about 15 years older - I laugh about it now as that was about 20 years ago and he's proper old looking now! Stick with guys your own age. He is a teacher and its nothing more than a schoolgirl crush!!
You'll be laughing about it one day ... just like I am at my teacher crush - trust me!x
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (30 December 2008):
 I'm sorry to hear this, as it's a tough situation to be in. The reality is, he is getting married to someone else. Even if he did want you, he is your teacher, and you could get him in serious legal trouble if you try to pursue a relationship with him.
This obsession is not healthy. You say yourself that it's destroying you, that it's tearing you apart and ruining you. Please don't waste any more of your youth pining for this man, who you will never have. You love him, and the saying goes: if you love something, let it go; if it returns to you, it was always yours, and if not, it never was. For your sake and his, let this man go and try to move on. Best of luck =]
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