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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm 17 years old and I'm completely in love with my super-awesome chorus teacher who's 32 and married. I was planning on telling him the very last day I'd see him (I'm graduating soon), but I'm not anticipating any kind of reply or reciprocation....I'm one of those people who would go bat-sh*t crazy (pardon my French) if I never said anything. He's been my chorus teacher every day for four years...which is how I've been in love with him.Please help.... Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I've got a question for you, are you going to listen to the aunts this time? You haven't listened to them any of the other times you posted this question. This sure has been a long school year.....
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Do not tell him!! Keep it your secret and its something you will laugh at when you are older. Telling him will hurt you if he laughs or looks horrified. If he tells you he loves you too then he isnt the kind of person you want to be in love with as this goes against his work ethic and his marriage. If you start an affair it probably wouldnt last, wouldnt be as good as you imagined and would hurt so many people. There will always be the nagging doubt of what if but at 17 you will meet so many more people and see this for what it really is - a cush. So really think this through before you act xx
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reader, bemused  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I am a high school teacher and have seen a few crash and burns because of situations like this. Hun...run do not even walk away from this. All will be hurt...in one way or another.
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reader, Shezza54  +, writes (29 April 2008):
well to be honest with you ive known alot of people who have had a crush on their chorus teacher that see them evey day as well the best advice i can give you is that you write a letter and thats what my friend did is write a letter expressing the feelings about that and it actully worked and the teacher had this thing for the girl once he got the letter yeah so things worked out their
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Love is like..
“I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me.
Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool,
she filled the palm of her hand with a little water and held
it before me, and said this:
“You see this water carefully contained on my hand?
It symbolizes Love.”
This was how I saw it: “As long as you keep your hand
caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always
be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers
round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds.
This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet
love…they try to posses it, they demand, they expect… and
just like the water spilling out of your hand, Love will
retrieve from you.
For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature.
If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings.
Give and don’t expect. Advise, but don’t order. Ask, but
never demand.
It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a
lifetime to truly practice.
It is the secret to true love.
To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no
expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring.”
From
(Swami Vivekananda)
When you meet someone and fall in love, only to
find out in the end that it was never meant to be.
If he isn’t worth it,it is not going to be worth it a year
or 10 years from now.
Let go…..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): "He's been my chorus teacher every day for four years...which is how I've been in love with him."
That is what love means to you? Sorry, but you know nothing about love then.
Lets see, if I were a teacher and had a young student, a minor, tell me she's in love with me, I'd grab her in my arms and give her a real french kiss. No, not really, I'd talk to the school physcritist and have you spend a few hours a week in session and probably have you removed from my class if you didn't get over it quick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): He is married, so keep away! We have all felt like this at one time or another over a teacher, so you are not alone. Please do not go there.
take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Very good advice from Datingshoes!
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