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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:i have been seeing someone exclusively for the past few months. recently he has had a lot of work to do because he is in his final year of university, so we haven't seen each other that much. i trust him that this is true because he still found ways to communicate with me and see me when he could, and talked about how he would see me much more after his exams are over. i left him to do his work because i didn't want to seem needy, but i did miss him and wanted to see him before term ended, and i assumed he would arrange something. the day before we left for easter i accused him of not wanting to see me, which i see now was a completely stupid thing to do. he became angry, which i understand, and said he thought i hadn;t seemed that bothered abut it when he tried to speak to me, and if i was why couldn't i just have asked him, why did it have to be him arranging everything? he said he wasn't angry at me, but was exasperated. since then i didn't want to bother him in case he needed space and was still annoyed, so i left it 4 days and then sent him a casual friendly text. he replied normally and seemed friendly, but then didn't reply to my reply. i haven't contacted him since then, it's been 2 days. i know he will be busy at home and will have even more work to do, but i'm worried that he is avoiding talking to me so he can end things when we go back after easter. i really don;t want this to happen but i don't know what the best thing is for me to do... any suggestions? i feel like i should leave him to contact me but i just don;t think i can leave it for a month of non stop worrying before finding out when we go back! i'd rather know now.. but i don;t want to ask him if in fact nothing is wrong, because then i'll seem insecure. what's the best thing for me to do, do you think he is thinking of ending things? or am i over analysing?
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reader, nicewife  +, writes (26 March 2011):
Don't call or tex him for 30 days..... Don't even reply to his tex. He will contact you make him go crazy wondering what your up to. It will drive him nuts. If he come to see you in person hide your feelings and just say you have been mad busy. Works on all men.
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