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I'm worried about my son's safety while at his father's family homes

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Question - (26 July 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 27 July 2016)
A female United States age 30-35, *ishap89 writes:

Im a 26 year old single mother of a 8 month old beautiful baby boy. I have never been married. The father of my child and i have recently broken up which offically ended the relationship. I have a few concerns about coustaty.

Mt sons father is currently living between two homes. Between his oldest half brothers home and his mother home.

His half brother is a convicted felon. Amongst many different major charges, his living conditions at his home are filthy. You walk into the house with the oder of a urinated kitty litter box,the hiuse is clutterd and filthy. They have two existing children in the home and a third on the way. They have weapons and dangerous items threwout the house in childrens reach.This brother has threatened harm to myself and to my child while i was still pregnant.

On the other hand,at his mothers he does not leagal live there due to he is not on the renters lease. According to the owner he is not supposed to even be on the property. Also his brother is a convicted child offender.

The father himself has been charged in the past with drug use and has had two previous childrn removed from his care by css. When i was 6mons pregnant he was arrested for drug use and on probation for a year,which i know personally he had used and faild his probation which is not on record because he was only tested once at the beginning of his probation and has not been tested since. I also know he has used even after my son was born and during visits at his mothers on weekends. Which visits only happened when i was present at all times

I am in the process of filing for full coustaty of my son for his safty and well being.

but what are the chances he may get weekend visition? Im worried about my son being at either home for his safty. I do not wish to take my son from his father. I have offered a number of times to make other arrangements for him to spend time with his son such as meeting in public and not with his family around but he never accepted.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy +, writes (27 July 2016):

Anonymous 123 agony auntDidn't you know about this guy's illustrious family before you decided to get pregnant? Even if you were together with him, they'd still be a part of your child's life, maybe even more then.

There's not much you can do other than consult a lawyer and try to get full custody. I feel bad for the child in all this... For no fault of his, he's exposed to such a poisonous environment.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (26 July 2016):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntCustody is complicated, but you need to talk to a lawyer about all of this, so that they can help you protect your child.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (26 July 2016):

Honeypie agony auntI think you need to talk to your lawyer. If you are already in the process of getting full custody, talk to the lawyer about visitations.

If the brother IS a convicted sex offender/child offender you should have an EASY time of NOT allowing overnight visitation or ANY visitation at his brother's house.

I would also look into supervised visitation with a 3rd NEUTRAL party. So you don't HAVE to be there, but someone responsible is.

Refusing visitation can make thing difficult for you, but... I think that would be my option (personally).

So TALK to your lawyer let her/him know these things.

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