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writes:hello!I need advice on what to do on a delicate and confusing matter. I am 24 years old with an 8 month old child with my bf who is 37. we've been arguing a lot recently over stupid little things and sometimes concerning how to raise our child. he is interested in having another baby but I would like to go back to school and work towards a degree so that I can have finacial freedom. I am currently a SAHM. we haven't had sex in about 7 months. I got on birth control and he said he wasn't interested in sex if there was no chance of me being pregnant. he said that was the one thing that turned him on and pushed him over the edge. That really hurt my feeling and killed my desire for sex. I have not felt turned on since then which is ok since i haven't been able to orgasm for.. a long time with my partner. I love him and he's like my best friend but I don't feel like I am in love with him. I am staying for my child and because i feel safe in this relationship. I would like to know if this is wrong and I should leave because I am not in love and I hate these arguments. He gets very angry when I don't agree with him. he yells or just walks out of the house when I refuse to agree with him on something. it's a long story. I met him when I was 16 and we hooked up when I was 17 and he was 31. I've never really felt that spark and tried to break up many times but he kept saying he needed me and I felt like I had to stay. I sometimes feel resentful of that but Its over now. we hid our relationship from family and friends for 2 years. now we have a child and everyone knows. I don't know what to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): a relationship will never work if both of you are not into it, well, it could work, but not be enjoyable for both of you. to be honest with you i think you should stay with him and maybe get some counciling or something because you two have a baby together and its just the responsible thing to do. theres a book that has helped many peoples relationships, including my own. its called "the five love languages". now if you feel like your love is completely gone, and theres no point in trying to regain the love because it will just never come back, then you might as well end it, but think of your baby.. sorry, my advise isnt that great, but hope it helps in some way.
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