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writes:I think i have social anxiety or something all i know is that everywhere i go i can't make friends. The ones I have aren't that good but I really can't branch out to make new ones. I'm invoved in tons of groups and great classes but no one ever seems interested in me and I don't know what to do. I'm lonely. =[ Reply to this Question
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reader, smitheroon +, writes (4 March 2010):
 Hey sweetie... first of all, you're a teen and I think every teen has social anxiety. Don't feel alone there! I was horribly anxious at your age and I learned something very valuable - you can fake confidence until you FEEL confidence! :)
I would recommend getting a part-time job in a place that makes you interact with complete strangers, like retail or fast food. People often meet friends through school or jobs and you'll often find people with similar interests. I worked at a daycare, a movie store, and a Radio Shack and all of those jobs not only paid me but gave me friendships and taught me how to strike up conversations, make small talk, and not feel so scared of getting to know new people.
Here's a trick too - people LOVE to talk about themselves. Google 'conversation starters' and find questions you can ask people and then keep asking more questions. If you become genuinely interested in others, then they'll become interested in you too. Find people who love the same things you love. Go slow in friendships and always remember, the best way to find good friends is to be a good friend.
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reader, Meow. +, writes (4 March 2010):
What you have to do is just say Hello to people spontainioulsy. Make sure to smile alot but not in a creepy way
I know it was seem hard but you just have to do and you never know you could find something in common and talk all day. Also make sure to put in effort to keep a conversation. ask them questions about their life.
:):) I will be your friend
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