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writes:I'm 37 and my boyfriend is 10 years younger. I am 6 month pregnant and before I was pregnant and at the beginning we had sex regularly but I had to initiate it every single time. Now we have gotten down to maybe once a month and it lasts usually less than a minute. I feel like he is a very selfish lover with a very low sex drive or he is just clueless. I don't know but I'm really frustrated and don't even feel any emotional intimacy towards him any more because of this problem. I like to have sex pretty much every day but I'm totally bored with having to initiate every time. I've tried talking to him about it but he just gets all sad and w/ hurt feelings. I don't know if he has low testosterone or...?? Just sooo frustrating! In all the time we've been together he has honestly never touched my body in a sexual way other than maybe clumsily grabbed my breast through my bra or shirt once or twice. Lord have mercy. I can't go on like this for the rest of my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): Just print this out and let him read it. Dude your girlfriend isn't being satisfied by your 1 to 2 minute sexual marathons. At your age you should already have this figured out, but since you don't here are some tips to improve your love making abilities at least 10-fold. (10 to 20 minutes). While this will still likely be inadequate time wise it will be a lot better. Step 1. Gently caress the bare skin of your mate providing gentle kisses to the shoulders and back. Keep caressing gently and kissing lightly for no less than 4 minutes. 2. Take your hand and gently caress her inner thigh and surrounding areas. Listen to her direction here and comply. Remember everything she tells you and repeat next time. Do this for 3 to 4 minutes. 3. Go down on her. Do this fir as long as it takes for her to orgasm and dye begs you to stop. If you don't know how just write the abcs with your tounge -- you can sing the song inside your head if it makes it more enjoyable for you. Plan on doing this until your tounge is so tired you cannot do it any longer. 4. Now you can use your penis. If you truly can only use it for 1 minute then I understand why you are avoiding sex. Try wearing a condom to desensitize it or get some benzocaine and put that on before starting step 2. Make sure no benzocaine gets on your gal. Step 5. Hold your woman after sex until you get hard again. Then repeat step 4 if she is so inclined. I hope this helps. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): well, you are pregnant and 37....that's a double dose of sex hormones (you are at your sexual prime) he's probably worn out and men like to do the chasing, they not ones to get excited about being pursued :) What you need right now is 2 or 3 men to service your needs and keep you satisfied....just trying to make light of a tough situation. Sexual incompatibility WILL break a relationship....there is no good advice to make him change, you can only change yourself.
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reader, LiveAnnLearn  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Try talking to him about it again, I'd say it's the only way to actually find out is he really a selfish lover with low sex drive or maybe (hopefully) just clueless; do let him now you need to have sex more often and you won't give up before he explains himself - hope that'll work.
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reader, 2sidedheart  +, writes (15 September 2010):
well have a talk with him it might b something to do in his past that he doesnt like for example being used for sex or just used full stop
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