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I'm tired of faking that I'm ok when I'm not!

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Question - (30 October 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 30 October 2010)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

So, lately i've been having low-self esteem

issues, anxiety, and paranoia. I'm 15 and had a crush on a guy friend, I was so sure he liked me but we went to a downtown area with a group of friends and my other friend set him up with this girl. After she got there I tried talking but was constantly ignored, i could feel myself begin getting disappointed so I decided to just turn around and walk 2 miles home. There were points where I broke down in tears that no one knew I left til 3 hours later! I got home and found out my crush is now dating this girl, so this adds onto the lonliness. I feel ugly...I have curly Anne frank hair, boring brown eyes, but I'm skinny....i also feel idiotic for crying. But I don't know...crying is showing that you are alive and one with you emotions people say.

I don't know what to do really...I just want someone to help me get over this and move on. Cause I'm sick of crying, frowning and being upset while I'm smiling, faking a laugh, or pretending to be happy. I don't know how much more I can take because it's getting to be too much...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010):

don't bottle all your feelings up

I've done it before, and it just leads you in a downward spiral to self-harm and stuff...which jsut makes you feel worse.

Talk to people about it, see if your school has a councellor or I'm sure there will be other suffering like you.

You could always go to a doctor and they could get a psychiatrist to prescribe antidepressants- thats what they did for me.

:) keep smiling :) keep talking x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010):

Caring guy is aces on this one. I fully support him. I will mirror his words. Good luck doll.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (30 October 2010):

I think that you need help from someone, maybe a counsellor, certainly a parent or teacher or someone you can just talk to. It sounds to me like you're falling into depression, and you need to get all these feelings out before they overwhelm you.

Unfortunately teenagers are an open target for depression. There's so much going on in the teenage mind, such as friendships, love interests, school work, parents, chemical changes etc that it can become too much. I myself spent most of my teenage depressed, and I had a few friends who were depressed too.

That's why you need to be open about it. It's your right, as a human, to feel crap. You don't have to fake smile, fake laugh, pretend to be happy when you're not. You are allowed to feel crap, and you're allowed to reach out to friends and family to get help.

Coming here was a good start. It means that you're worried enough about yourself to get help. Now you need to be brave and tell someone around you how you feel. They will want to help. Don't fake feeling happy when you're not. I did it sometimes, and it's not a good thing to do. It can lead to places that you just don't want to go.

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A female reader, Erinrulz1 Australia +, writes (30 October 2010):

its ok trust me this guy will soon find out that ur better for him all u have to do is be strong and support him and stand by him in issues and remember u dont need a man to complete u!!!!! dont feel ugly ur friends just arent tue friends ive had the same problem

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