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writes:i have been with my girlfried for five years and I recently came in contact with an old friend who we used to hang out as friends with a group of people on the weekends but now after a few weeks I've been thinking about her non stop I want to tell her but I don't want to ruin our friendship or hurt my girlfriend if the feelings are not real - what should I do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): I have been in that position, more than once in my crazy life...Just when you think everything is great, your happy and content...someone comes along, and you just can't get them out of your head! I know! It sucks! You start to question your loyalty, You wonder "what kind of person am I?" The guilt is enormous! But yet...you feel drawn to this other person!
As the previous poster suggested, do some soul searching, ask yourself those questions. And don't believe the old saying that the grass is always greener! When we are in a relationship for awhile, it becomes routine, and we long for the excitement of a new romance! Some of us are in love with falling in love! You are in a 5 year relationship that was great till you met up with this old friend of yours. It's a new idea floating around in your head that is exciting you! Instead of questioning whether you should tell her (the friend) what you are feeling, question What you can do to bring excitement back to your existing relationship! Don't start something you might regret for something you know is good!
Good Luck whatever you decide to do!
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reader, Plutonious +, writes (26 February 2009):
This one sounds pretty harsh and frustrating for you ay?
If i was in this position I would be asking the same question.
you just gotta trust yourself to ask your questions...
do i value me and my girlfriend's 5 year relationship?
do i love her enough?
am i still in love?
is it worth going for the old friend?
Sometimes, looking back at the very beginning of your relationship with your girlfriend can also be of a help on how you guys met, and why? how you guys clicked?
why you should or shouldn't break up?
Do you have any other reasons be sides the old friend?
Would it really be worth spoiling five years with the girlfriend by telling the old friend how you feel?
I guess at this point... compare and contrast with how you are feeling
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