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writes:Hi! Im a 16 years old girl and I never kissed anyone and thinking about it just freaks me out, i know that I don't know how to kiss! I am going to be a bad kisser and since I am pretty popular at my school I know that I will be laugh at! Please help me
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reader, Kofcalifornia +, writes (2 January 2022):
I know this is very bad advice but if you wish to learn to kiss well quickly your best bet is to find some one to practice with. Someone you find attractive but not emotionally connected to. Kiss them until you are confident enough to kiss your boyfriend well.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (5 April 2016):
 No one is born being good at ANYTHING. Other than maybe breathing in air and producing bodily waste.
SERIOUSLY!
I agree with WiseOwlE, that kissing takes the RIGHT partner. Just like anything else you "need" a partner for, be it dance, sex, 3-legged racing... things takes practice but you WILL "click" with some faster than others. And every partner is different.
My best advice, RELAX, go slow.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (4 April 2016):
Everyone starts off as a bad kisser. No one is good at doing something they have never done for the first time. It takes practice, and knowing what you like and don't like.
Don't over think things, just let it happen. Remember the feeling, what you like and don't. Then you can make adjustments to be a better kisser. :))
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (4 April 2016):
Do some web searches centering around kissing, such as "how to kiss" or "best kissing techniques." I'm sure there are plenty of kissing videos on YouTube, as well.At your age, your partner is probably suffering the same issues: "She's so popular that if she doesn't like my kissing I may turn into the laughing stock of the school."Nevertheless, you are wondering how all this is done, so leave it to your partner to take the lead. He'll be less likely to blame you if things don't go well.All said and done, though, the pleasure experienced with kissing will likely lead you to good kissing after just a few of them. Just as in a back massage, you'll know what feels good and what you want more of. Take it slow. A good kiss really starts before your lips meet. Ideally (and this may be more up to your partner) it starts with a quiet, romantic and private environment, fresh mouth, tender touches, sweet words, looking into each others eyes, finger stroking of hair and cheeks...that sort of thing.Beware that guys - especially at your age - often start out overly aggressive, bypassing any of the above and going straight to sticking their tongue down your throat. If you feel comfortable doing so, you may want to take the lead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2016): You shouldn't be "freaking-out" over anything. There is always a little fear of something you have never done before. Why must you think you'll be bad at it? Why must you worry about what other people think? Who would you kiss that would go public about how you kissed?
Now read this, and think about how silly this sort of thinking is. It only means you're not ready for it yet.
Your thoughts are childish. That's a sign you must wait until your head can handle it.
First of all, being popular makes you feel you have to constantly perform for social acceptance; and maintain an image of perfection for everyone to see. You shouldn't allow yourself to be so conceited. It's too stressful.
When your lips touches the lips of the right young man for you, just think how tender you want it to be. These things really come naturally as you will see.
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